[phoenixkay7]

I've been with my husband for 13 years, we're both 26 but for the past 10 months I've been having an affair with a woman, my best friend. My husband knows I have slept with her, he knows my feelings are confused towards her now. She has told me she is in love with me and wants to be with me, I know I feel the same but I'm so scared. I have been honest with my husband about all of it, I don't understand why but he forgives me and wants us to try and regain our love. I'm not in love with him although I do care about him deeply and worry what this will do to him. I think I need to be on my own and sort me out but he fights so hard and I feel so guilty. I have no one I can't all to about this as my best friend is already involved. We have two children 7 and 2 I don't want to ruin their lives either. Please help me

[lemarkstaurt]

This may sound really crazy, but just for the sake of your kids- how about being in a polyamory or triad form of relationship. But of course only if your friend and your husband are interested.

[excon]

Hello p:

I'm a believer in keeping your commitments. I think there's a GREATER benefit having done so, than any short term benefits that MIGHT look good.

I say this, being a fellow who DIDN'T do that, and wishes he had.

excon

[Fr_Chuck]

How about stopping the affair and going to counseling to try and make your marriage work. Being bi or lesbian is not an excuse to have affairs.