[saskiaaa]

My boyfriend of three years and I had just moved in together, He then cheated on me and told me about it. It was just a kiss but obviously still affected me. I was willing to fix our relationship and work it out together and at first so was he. Then he said he needed a break to just sort his head out a bit and figure out why he did it and so on.

Now he has decided we aren't together anymore because he wants to experience single life and in some time be it a week or a couple months he's going to get back to me and meet and tell me if he wants to try and make our relationship work, or just leave it and never try again.

All I want to do is make it work, but he has said he doesn't want to talk to me until he has made his decision. I feel like I'm being stringed along, and by breaking up with me he can just go off with whoever he wants to and do what he likes with no guilt. I don't know what to do, I love him so much, but he's just thinking about himself and not how I feel... What should I do, wait for him to say whether he wants to stay single or try and be a couple again or just not let him have control and leave completely?

[Alty]

You gave yourself the answer. Read your own post.

He's stringing you along. He wants to go live the single life, but he wants you to wait just in case he doesn't find something better.

That's not fair to you!

You can love him, but I wonder why. He's being a selfish arse, and you shouldn't have to accept that.

If he wants to be single, fine, let him be. But if you're not together than you're single too. So go out and have fun, meet new people. Why should you sit around waiting for him to call with his decision about your relationship?

[talaniman]

I agree with Alty, let him be single, and make it clear to him so are you. Make sure you have the fun you deserve with no regrets, or guilt.

I know 3 years is a long time and who gets over that very quickly? No one, but why wait for some one else to decide if they want you, before you decide what you want BESIDES them.

As hurtful and confusing as this break up is, its also an opportunity, after you have mourned, and healed properly.

[SoftSummer]

Whoa!! Don't wait for him. Pack your bags and leave. Period. The end.

[mmresd]

You are being put on the back burner. While he wants you around, when HE wants you around, he also wants to have fun with other people. Have some self respect for yourself and leave him.