[neve99]

Ok so here it is..

I'm 21 years old. I been in only one long term relationship in which I been giving it my all. Both even lost our v-card, got a good start, moved in together, everything picture perfect to my eyes although we had some small fights nothing we couldn't fix and then we had a big fight. Pushed and shoved and parents got involved. He moved out after barely a year of living together and said we were done. I was destroyed.

Then in two days he came back for his stuff and told me that he didn't see himself in the future without me. So we made up but decided to take a small break and he would stay with his parents. So things got stable for awhile then he wanted to be more in the gay community. He made some sketchy friends. I told him that they were sluts and didn't like him hanging with them and he didn't listen at all, called me insecure and not trusting him. I trusted him but not his new friends.

Well a couple of months after that he broke up with me then made up his mind telling me to take a break, telling me he was going to be 21 and wanted to go out and enjoy himself, I told him we could go together clubbing but he didn't wanted that, so because I love him I decided to agree on this break, not to see other people, but to respect each other.

Then I decided to fly to Mexico and stay with my dad in this six month break, and now we are 5 months in the break, and he's telling me straight up that he wants to see what's out there. He's only been with me sexuality and has a feeling of messing around but he is not capable of it because I'm on his mind. He says he doesn't know if he'll be faithful in a couple of years if he keeps those urges inside.

He says he still loves me can't see himself without me in the future and that just turned me into dust. Never thought this from him. Despite it all I still have hope on us and my love hasn't decreased a bit and I'm confused, don't know what to do. I cried ever since he moved out in early January 2011. Our break is over in February 2012 and I don't know what to do.

I'm depressed and can't stop thinking about all those good times we had. I dream every night about them, its like in my dreams nothing has changed and its getting to a point that I missed days at work because I rather stay in my bed asleep dreaming of him.

[Fr_Chuck]

21, So young and you are likely to have perhaps a few more relationships before the right long term person comes around. What else is out there is a honest thing to, I want to run around and sleep with others, so I am leaving you..

If they cared about you, they would not do this, You should be the one, not even letting him back if he wanted to come. Have self respect, have dignity and move on with your life.

[talaniman]

What you do is let those dreams go and get some reality, and go to work, and build a happy life without him.

Then maybe you will not be so fooled by the words of this person so he can do his thing and leave the door open just in case he decides to come back, which they seldom do.

So don't wait for him to keep his words, because his actions say he rather have a good time and the hell with what you want. So you are stuck on someone that's not stuck on you, and while you miss work and fantasize with a broken heart, he is off explore what the world has to offer.

Sound kind of sad and pathetic? It is.

[RNM]

Here's what I think...

I have experience breaking up with a boyfriend several times, getting back together and he says he loves you, he cares about you, this and that. However the truth is that you are both young, and he is younger than you I guess from reading ? Everyone can be different, yet men are all alike someway. He wants to be with others now, try the market. You should let go now, because at least he is saying this to you now, rather than feeling this way when you are married and he is cheating on you in the future because he didn't get the chance to fool around. And you are a young woman and he is just emotionally playing with your feelings, even though he cares a lot about you, he still just wants to go out there and play around. If you let him go, it might be better just to not talk to him for a while. Out of sight, out of mind. If he really just wanted to be with you, he would do so. Think about yourself, and think are you more happy with him or without him and all the fighting. Have respect for yourself, and be there for yourself.

Goodluck. Listen to your intuitive, because that feeling is always right.