[hannah f]

Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago. There are some days where I feel like I'm getting over him and I don't even think about him. But then there are other days where I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him so much. He doesn't want me back and I don't want him back. I just miss being in that relationship.

We were together for 2 and a half years and I miss being with him. He was the best thing that's ever happened to me. What's really getting to me is the fact that our would have been 3 year anniversary is on December 6th and it hurts knowing I won't be celebrating that day anymore. Its also the day after my birthday. I can't even put a smile on my face for my birthday because I know that the anniversary is coming up the next day.

I just want to stop thinking about my ex and be able to move on. I have a job, I go to school. So keeping myself busy isn't the problem. Its about letting go and moving on. I'm talking to other guys and trying to move on but its really hard. What else can I do?

[vanheart]

"he doesn't want me back and i don't want him back"

Read that one back to yourself. A few hundred times, until it sinks in.

There you go.

Its not a crime to think about our exs. But, look at it this way.
You've survived 5 months w/o him.

You've already moved on. Keep it up. Those thoughts are just a hiccup.
Excuse yourself. And don't live on past dates. Hes not thinking about them.

Just you & your head.

Make your next anniversary a year not being with him.

[DaniCalifornia]

Two and a half years is enough time to get fully attached to someone, so don't worry about WHY you're not over him, just concentrate on doing so.

Tomorrow, celebrate by going out with your friends. I think you'll find you have more fun without him than with him.

And assuming I read your post correctly, happy birthday!

X Dani

[talaniman]

Hope you had a happy birthday, despite being reminded of what you had and lost.

Take a lot longer that 5 months to completely get over an ex that was in your life almost 3 years. You are just sad that this is your first birthday without him is all.

[LuckyChucky13]

'He was the best thing that's ever happened to me'. I think that one line says it all. Until you accept the fact that he is no longer a part of your life and believe (truly believe) that you'll one day meet another person who will be more of a best thing that will happen to you, you will continue to miss him. It's natural, it's human and it's a part of letting go. Don't beat up yourself over it. I don't have the slightest clue why you broke up, but in saying that you don't want each other back you're saying that you have both made that decision once and for all. Accept that and let it sink in. It might take another 5 months, but time is your best friend.

A part of you may want him back (secretly, it's OK to admit it), and honestly, no one knows what the future holds, and he may very well come back into your life when you least expect it, but in the meantime enjoy each day you live, because you can't get back any minute lost.

Good luck hanna.

[sgary]

I am going through this too with someone that I met shortly after New Year’s, and I was with for about 2 months up until a month ago.

Here it is a month later, and I still think of the person I was with, even there has been no contact since the time we broke up.

Deep down I believe they were a good person, however they had some depression issues. Since we broke up, I learned that they were going out and meeting different people while we were together, and recently I found out they are back with their alcoholic ex.

Defiantly a mess, that I am glad I am not part of, I just miss the good times we did have together, but I guess in time this will be behind me as well.

If you live alone like I do, it’s hard to let go of someone who was part of your life and around most of the time, even when we know it is for the best.