[jen_lorenza]

I recently found out that my significant other has been keeping contact with this girl he met a few weeks ago. I know he chats often with her online and sometimes for hours. I have asked if he has any feelings for her because I have a gut feeling about it but he denied it. But I just felt something was wrong and actually snooped around his email and found this recent email he wrote to her telling her he finds that he has developed feelings for her and that he wants to stop contacting her already because he feels bad. However, the sad part is he wrote that he'll still think about her from time to time and miss her. I asked him about the email and at first he was a little offended I snooped but the thing is, I felt he cheated because he developed feelings for another. It was still an emotional infidelity to me. He admitted he had feelings for her and that it was because he didn't feel enough love and acceptance in our relationship and once he realized his mistake he immediately decided to cut her off and the important thing was that he chose me over her and had cut off contact with her but I don't know. I'm still at a lost. Should I forgive him or move on? I do still love him but he says he is sorry and will never do it again. However, there's this saying of, "Once a cheater, always a cheater". Did he cheat and what should I do? I'm kind of confused.

[vanheart]

Im not one for cheating or snooping.

Ive done both. Paid for it. Karma & otherwise.

Here's the thing.

You both have to be invested.
And have the skills to do so.
Want it. Be compatible. Have goals together.

Work at it. Why you are together in the first place?

Otherwise, a waste of time.

I read one of my ex's diary's one time.
Graphic stuff about how she was screwing her co-worker in the lingerie I bought her.

So kill me.

[talaniman]

Clear that confusion through honest communications. I feel he crossed the lines of good behavior, not by having feelings for another, that's natural, and very human, but by acting on them the way he did, by confessing them to her. He says he is sorry, and felt neglected, and angry at your snooping, which bad as that was, you acted on your own feelings and instincts, which proved right.

Now you must talk and air your concerns, and disappointments, AND actions and see if this can be overcome. I imagine it will be a while before the confusion is gone and you can trust, if you can, but for now, the only thing that matters is you talk and listen to each other to see not only what comes next, but to redefine the boundaries of good behavior.

If you both are willing. Anything is possible if you BOTH are willing to work on it.

[Rhyme4NoReason]

Cheating depends on the person. Hold hands may not be veiwed as cheating to
Some people, and I remember someone saying that having sex isn't cheating,
But if you kiss the person that is cheating because kidding is more passionate.
I was ABSOLUTELY FLOORED when I heard that, but then again, everyone is different.

Do you believe in second chances?

Do you believe people can change?

I believe people can get caught up in emotions and have themselves
Believe feelings that aren't really there.

He's human, he made a mistake. I believe I make mistakes, but I never
Make the second mistake twice.

Ultimately, know one know the inner workings of your relationship. What do you believe in?