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    Aug 2, 2011, 01:45 AM
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    Hello, I have a lot of insecurities, and I am not sure why. I am considered a manic depression/severe bipolar, and my boyfriend knows that. We have been together for about 5 months now and I freak out about everything. I go through his phone, his Facebook, a girl texted his phone and sent a random picture and I blew up only to find out it was his sister.

    I have calmed down a lot but now he has got to the point, where he can look at a girl and I flip out. He tells me he was just looking but its always skinny girls like 110 Lbs. It bothers me because he has only been with 2 big girls like me in his history (I weigh about 150). I have guys swarm around me telling me I am pretty and stuff but Jordan won't tell me I am pretty or nothing.

    He gets mad but does nothing really about it. I try to tell him why I feel the way I do and he thinks I am just over-reacting, or nagging, and I know these little fights about him never spending time with me, and looking at other girls, and stuff is messing up our relationship. Will some one please help me!
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    Aug 2, 2011, 12:48 PM

    How old are you first? Also are your disorders just your idea, or did a doctor diagnose you? Are you taking your meds as prescribed?

    Maybe he doesn't know what it means to be dealing with some one like you, even though you told him what you are. It may help to educate him on what a manic depression/severe bipolar is so he understands it, and again are you on meds for this condition?
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    Aug 2, 2011, 01:01 PM

    I'd like you to come back with more information please.

    Have you been diagnosed with these disorders and if so what kind of treatments are you receiving?
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    Aug 2, 2011, 01:21 PM

    Who "considers" you manic depressive? I don't get that diagnosis at all from your description of how you act and how you react to things.
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    Aug 2, 2011, 09:07 PM

    I have had my insecure moments as well. A lot of people go through it. And you have to realize the source of your insecure ways, accept them, and move on. If you want this or any future relationships to work out, the insecure ways are going to have to calm way down. I have lost relationships with my insecurities and I went a long while being single trying to cope with my problems. If this guy has never done anything wrong to you, there should be no reason to feel he is a bad person. There ARE good guys out there. What I did, is when I would get that feeling, where I suspected something was going on, I would either let it go, and continue a happy day with that person, or I would simply ask in a non-aggresive way about the situation. Keep the questions down to a minimum. Stop going through his personal items (phone, Facebook etc.) and just KNOW that things are fine and nothing is going on behind your back. Try to Build confidence. Confidence will conquer Insecurity :)

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