[haley1212]

Hi, I've been going out with this guy for about a month. It's been going pretty well but I think I'm not in love with him. I don't even know if he loves me either. I like spending time with him but it never seems to be enough. We are very different; he likes to go out a lot and I'm OK with just watching a movie, taking walks or going skiing. He drinks, I don't, I'm close with my family, he isint, I like romance and he's a very independent guy... I know for sure he is not the man of my life, but then again I am only 19... am I overthinking it or should I call it quits? I feel good when I'm with him and I like spending time with him but the second he's away I keep requestionning our relashionship... what should I do??

[kctiger]

You need to relax and have fun. That is what dating is about. No way should you feel in love with or think he is the man of your dreams after only a month of getting to know each other. If you don't like being around him, that's one thing, but if you do enjoy each others company and you get along then I see nothing wrong with just letting things develop naturally and enjoying your time together.

[answerme_tender]

Your 19yrs old, if you don't feel like he is right guy, then just be friends. Get out and enjoy your life, don't get tied down with someone that you don't have much in common with. Im not saying that you should feel love in only a months time, but it doesn't even sound like you have a romantic feelings for him really, maybe because of the differences.

[momilee]

Why are you trying to decide after a month? If you enjoy his company, keep seeing him, and until you know if he's the one you want to focus in on, keep dating others as well. If you've said something that would suggest to him that you are exclusive, then you may want to break it off in order to let him off the hook, and remember in the future to slow down, have fun, and take your time getting to know someone.