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skylerkrinsky · Dec 2, 2010, 03:18 PM

My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now but we are having problems... im a senior in high school and she graduated last year and this summer she moved in with me and my mom and I kind of took advantage of her and cheated on her and my mom realized that me and my girlfriend weren't steady and that I was playing her so she moved back with her parents recently and they have been telling her things and now she wants to leave me because of what I did and also before we basically cut each other off from all friends and family and now she says its my fault and that I'm controlling... now she wants me to change but I don't know what to do or how to change to make this work.

angelotaku · Dec 2, 2010, 03:36 PM

Well relationships that start in high school don't last really long verry seldom does it ever mabey you shold look at the relatinship itself and deeply think of it's worth mabey wait for a little while sometimes we don't realize weather or not a relationship has truly ended... but then again I have never been in a relatinoship,I just thought back on all of my freind's relatinships, and pieces of advice I gave them that did'nt blow up in their faces,I hope this helps you...

Andrew916 · Dec 2, 2010, 04:05 PM

Well to start out- you cheated on her while she was living with you and believe me (I seem to have horrible luck) it's happened to me and it's the absolute WORST feeling. Chances are she still can't move beyond that and if she thinks you're being controlling listen to her and back off. Even you said you were just playing her and taking advantage of her- that's not something people just get over in a week or even a month. People never forget stuff like that. Her trust in you has been broken and it can take a LONG time to recover and renew that trust. To be perfectly honest it sounds like you really kind of screwed her over and if you want the relationship to get back on the rails you need to let her call the shots.

-Drew

talaniman · Dec 2, 2010, 06:02 PM

You showed her you don't care, and the best way to fix it is, to leave her alone to get over the hurt you have caused her, find a guy who cares, deserves her trust and loyalty, won't cheat, or take advantage of her, and knows how to make her happy because he really cares. That's just not you yet! It may take years for you to get to that point, so why should she suffer in the mean time?

Sorry guy, but I doubt you could fix this with all the advice in the world, without working hard to fix yourself first.

Devorameira · Dec 3, 2010, 06:49 AM

Yep, it's up to you to prove to her that you're trustworthy and that you really want to be with her.

You cheated on her and started all the controversy and the only way to fix it is to take a step back, treat her with the respect she deserves, and stop running around on her.

It may take months for her to see the changes and decide she wants to be with you... can you behave yourself that long?

stinaann · Dec 3, 2010, 10:46 AM

Well, in my personal opinion, I don't think that her moving in was the best of ideas. At the age that you both are, not very many are, mentally, ready to move in with one another. I'm sure she's got trust issues with you now as well. You're really just going to have to show her your respects and try to regain her trust. That's something that only you can figure out. I do wish you the best of luck (:

Aleeravilu · Dec 3, 2010, 11:27 AM

Well you cheated on her AND took advantages of her AND played with her AND were being controlling while she was technically living with you. The last time a guy did that to me, I punched him in the face (and I didn't even live with him) . Your girlfriend was being nice by telling you you should change and stuffs, but believe me, she is not going to forgive you, ever. Even if she agrees to get back to the relationship, things will never get back to how it used to be. She will doubt you more and never be able to trust you completely, and no relationship can last long without trust.
The best thing to do is to let her go and let her find another guy that's worthy of her time and won't cheat on her NOR take advantage of her NOR play with her NOR try to control her.
And it really IS your fault. I'm saying this because the way you talk is like you believe none of this is your fault. If not then I'm sorry.