[Grace12]

I have been in a great relationship for 7 months now (my first long term relationship) I'm 19 years old. We met, became best friends and then decided to enter into a relationship and we spent every moment we can with each other. It has been very healthy so far. We've passed the 'honey moon stage' and dealt with a few small issues, (mainly to do with my insecurities) however, recently I have noticed a lack of interest in sex and any type of affection really, on my boyfriend's part. Our sex life has been great up until about 3 weeks ago and such a sudden change makes me worry. Nothing has changed in terms of other parts of our relationship apart from this. I know couples go through phases like this but I'm worried (probably because of my insecurities) that it's because of me, maybe he no longer finds me sexually attractive, maybe he's falling out of love with me. Before he used to be very affectionate- holding my hand and cuddling me whenever he could, but now there seems like there's an issue. I know it must sound like such a trivial worry but any thoughts on the subject would be helpful. This being my first relationship I don't really know what to expect and I'd like some advice before I confront him (in case I'm making this up to be something bigger than it really is). Has anyone else gone through a similar kind of thing? What should I do?

[ironhide262]

Talk to him . Tell him how this is making you feel. He could just be feeling really comfortable in the relationship and this is just how he is or perhaps he is just getting a little lazy. But, you will never know without some communication first!

[Andrew916]

You sound exactly like my girlfriend and me haha we've been having the same problem at least with the sex. In the beginning of our relationship the sex was frequent and very good but I'd say about a moth ago my drive just plummeted. I think its due to the stress that I was under and the entire time but for the duration of the problem I never loved her any less. As for the general affection I'm not so sure on that one. I think Ironhide's suggestion to talk to him is a good one of course. It could be nothing and he could just be getting a little lazy ( I think we all do from time to time). This could be nothing so I wouldn't blow it tooo far out of proportion but it's certainly something to discuss.

[talaniman]

As you say the honeymoon is over, and the real work of establishing communications, and dealing with the true character of a partner begins. Instead of confronting, being insecure, and presuming and assuming the worst, take his hand and talk calmly.

[Grace12]

Thank you for the advice. I have decided to discuss it with him soon. I guess it's just in my nature to worry over the little things.