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MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 7, 2010, 08:24 PM

My homeboy came to my house then he suddenly we kissed... I have a boyfriend and I don't know what to do I feel bad and good at the same time but I love my boyfiend and I like my homeboy help me I don't know what should I do if I tell my boyfriend we are ganna break up and I don't want that... what should I do??

BrOkEn_StAr · Oct 8, 2010, 12:03 AM

Will you did a biiig mistake and you should ask your heart which one does he want because you have to love a true love!!

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 8, 2010, 03:59 AM

I tried already and I just can't make my choice.. I feel so bad but the good thing is that I didn't had sex with my homeboy.. all I know is that I love my boyfriend and I like my homeboy

Fr_Chuck · Oct 8, 2010, 04:05 AM

If you even have a choice, then that means you have feelings for both, I guess one, why do you have to chose, depending on how serious a relationship is, what ever happened to dating two or three people before settling dow to one alone.

I guess you said "he kissed you" would that mean you kissed him back and keep kissing a bit

BrOkEn_StAr · Oct 8, 2010, 04:07 AM

Will don't know what to do but who loves u true love? I mean which one of them?

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 8, 2010, 04:14 AM

Well yea we keeped kissing but we didn't had sex and that's important... its hard to make a choice because I care for both of them that if I tell them that I just wannna be friend their not ganna talk to me anymore so that's what stops me to make a choice

martinizing2 · Oct 8, 2010, 04:23 AM

Regardless of the consequences you should always be truthful.
Every lie you tell and every time you cheat (you do not have to have sex to cheat. If you are exclusive with your boyfriend , what you did with homeboy is cheating) is setting a time bomb that will eventually blow up in your face and kill any relationship.

If you have to lie about what you do... you shouldn't be doing it.

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 8, 2010, 04:38 AM

I know and right know I feel so sad because I did wrong especially to my boyfriend know I have to tell him the true even though it hurs...

Cat1864 · Oct 8, 2010, 04:44 AM

If you can't decide to be faithful to one or the other, then leave both of them behind.

Let both of the relationships go. Heal. Then when you are ready and the emotional dust has settled, find someone who embodies what you like in both the boyfriend and the homeboy.

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 8, 2010, 04:52 AM

Well the true I don't know my boyfriend is 18 and my homeboy 16... and my homeboy takes me to all my classes and my boyfriend takes me out on the weekends... they both cool but I just don't know who to choice

BrOkEn_StAr · Oct 8, 2010, 04:58 AM

Hmmm how old are you?? And maybe I can give u the right way!!

Cat1864 · Oct 8, 2010, 05:34 AM

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talaniman · Oct 8, 2010, 01:09 PM

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MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 9, 2010, 07:44 PM

I keep seen why homeboy even though I'm still with my boyfriend. Well me and my homeboy are just friends and we keep kissing and hugging. I haven't seen my boyfriend since Tuesday and I see my homeboy every day I feel so bad because what I'm doing to my boyfriend andi feel good because I have a crush on my homeboy but he says he doesn't want to have a girl because he has his reasons and he doesn't want to tell me what they are so I'm like what should I do? Should I keep flurting with why homeboy or should I let him go and be with my boyfriend? Can you please help me I'm so confuse that my head hurts so bad just thinking on my decisison and I know you will give me good advices that's why I'm asking you for you help so please help me.

Wondergirl · Oct 9, 2010, 07:53 PM

You know what you should do.

Alty · Oct 9, 2010, 07:53 PM

What's a "y homeboy"? Is he a friend?

If you want to pursue a relationship with someone else, than fist you have to break up with the guy you're seeing. It's not fair to him if you play two guys, and it's really not fair if you're just keeping the boyfriend around because this "y homeboy" isn't ready for a relationship.

If you're even thinking about dating another guy, than that's usually a clear sign that you're not that into the one you're with. Dating is fine, but not if you're in a relationship.

Choose one. You can't have both.

Alty · Oct 9, 2010, 08:04 PM

I have to ask, is this guy you're interested in the same guy in this post that you posted today?

well broken_star I have been in this problem twice and I just had to move on I found this good guy that shows me that he loves me even though this boy is getting in our relationship telling me to leave my boyfriend and be with him but its not going to happen because I'm happy with my boyfriend... well how old are you because you sound young like me I'm 16 and I act like a older person because I been in so many situations that I know how life is with a man specially the ones like your boyfriend... just move on you'll see it will be worth it...

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...do-514690.html post #30

If it's the same guy, is it he that wants you or you that wants him? I thought he wasn't interested in a relationship.

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 9, 2010, 08:05 PM

Well I meant my homeboy(friend). I Guess you right ima try to find a guy that has half and half of my homeboy and my boyfriend it would be great. Thanks for your help but damm its ganna be hard to leave them.

Yes Altenweg that's the guy I'm talking about and damm you really smart you know how to help people a lot you should be a counsiler.

Alty · Oct 9, 2010, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by MIZZ.CASTANEDA

Yes Altenweg thats the guy im talking about and damm you really smart you know how to help people alot you should be a counsiler.

Honestly, this question doesn't require a counselor, it just requires logic and morals. Also, the truth would be nice, if you do in fact want advice, and the sarcasm is better left behind.

Either this guy isn't interested, or he's trying to break you and your boyfriend up so he can be with you. Which one is it?

Fact is, you have a boyfriend, so this whole thing shouldn't be that hard to figure out. If you want to date someone else, become single. Voilà, problem solved. :rolleyes:

MIZZ.CASTANEDA · Oct 10, 2010, 06:29 AM

I guess ima be single and later on when I feel like I'm ready for a true boy ill start dating again.The problem is that they both aren't ganna talk to me anymore because ima say that I want to be alone with no boyfriend or a friend with benefits so that's what I'm scared off.