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labogo · Oct 4, 2010, 02:33 AM

We have known each other for years and always been attracted to each other. We became lovers a couple of months back. Made a silly FB mistake on Friday and now he is not talking to me. Does he still think about me - will he come back to me? Please help it is a tricky situation.

redhed35 · Oct 4, 2010, 02:38 AM

A silly FB mistake to you could be a lot bigger to him.

Did he finish the relationship or is he just not speaking to you?

labogo · Oct 4, 2010, 02:41 AM

He hasn't finished the relationship - he is just being silent!

J_9 · Oct 4, 2010, 02:43 AM

This is your lover, not your husband correct?

labogo · Oct 4, 2010, 02:47 AM

I already sent an sms this morning asking if he was all right and he replied "no" so I tried to talk to him about it and said I was sorry etc and since then he is giving me the silent treatment.

redhed35 · Oct 4, 2010, 02:49 AM

I misread your post and gave you terrible advice,my sincere apologe.

Really, you should be concentrating on your marriage,let this man go! Your married and have made a decision.

Your cheating on your husband.

Either work on your marriage,or leave.

Edit: deleted my post above,as I misread the original post.

J_9 · Oct 4, 2010, 02:50 AM

I'm asking again, as this is important to the kind of answers you will get...

Is this your husband?

labogo · Oct 4, 2010, 02:57 AM

I know redhed35 you are right but this is getting more difficult by the day - and I can't erase the feelings I have.

J_9 · Oct 4, 2010, 03:00 AM

You both are married to other people. Hopefully there are no children involved. Do you realize that you are actually ruining the lives of at least 4 people here?

FB conversations, IMs, PMs are easy for anyone to pull up. Hopefully his wife has not seen these discussions.

redhed35 · Oct 4, 2010, 03:03 AM

Originally Posted by labogo

I know redhed35 you are right but this is getting more difficult by the day - and I can't erase the feelings I have.

What about your marriage? It that over?

What have you tried to save it?

If this man does not want you,what then?

Your husband deserves a wife that is faithful,he deserves the truth.
You can control your feelings.

Your risking a lot for this other man,is he really worth the price your paying,or will pay when the truth comes out.

You always have a choice in your actions,you can't live with this deceit and the secrets,its not healthy for anyone involved.

Have you considered councilling with your husband?

jheep · Oct 4, 2010, 04:30 AM

Does he still think about me - will he come back to me?

Given your situation, I think you're asking the wrong question. You have violated so many rules already. It's a bad mess to be in. It's called adultery. Nothing good will ever come out of it.

I know redhed35 you are right but this is getting more difficult by the day - and I can't erase the feelings I have.

I know feelings can be strong and powerful. We can't help how we feel, but it doesn't mean we should act on it all the time. We can always choose what we do about it. We can just sit it out and let it pass.

You should stop romanticizing your feelings, especially if it runs counter to your best interests.

talaniman · Oct 4, 2010, 08:18 AM

Maybe his wife saw your silly mistake on Facebook, and has grounded him, and is giving him the hell he deserves, or a divorce he deserves. Better watch out, you may get the divorce you deserve too.

answerme_tender · Oct 4, 2010, 08:43 AM

Impressive. First you cheat on your husband. Then in a mature state of mind, post something on Facebook that makes your lover upset with you. Now you are depressed because your so called lover is not paying you any attention.
Why don't you grow up and stop playing the " does he love-does he not" childish game". Its time to give your husband his freedom papers, so he can go and find a real woman, that will know what commitment means, and will love him!! Have you ever asked your so calle lover to leave his wife for you. Don't you think he is already getting a little tired of you and probably looking for a new girlfriend!! What goes around ALWAYS, comes back to haunt us.