[cm2280]

I have been seeing a man on and off for over two years. We have tried to end our relationship numerous times and have been unsuccessful. The reason was always he was scared and needed to move on. I have recognize I need to move on, but sometimes you can't help who you love. To fill you in on his personality; 6 yrs to finish college (attending full time) rather hang out with "the boys" crappy apartment, no real career. But he is not a serial womanizer. We had recently gone on vacation together and it was great. We were affectionate, no fighting and had tons of fun. At the end of the vacation (last night! ) he loved me but didn't feel attracted to me. What happened? Did he get scared again? Can a guy be that scared he would push away a relationship with someone that he loved? Was he that comfortable that is scared him. Or am I just having a hard time accepting he doesn't feel the same for me?

[Homegirl 50]

Or am I just having a hard time accepting he doesn't feel the same for me?

This may be your answer. On and off for two years, that is too much uncertainty. You either want a person or you don't. It may be time to end this yourself.

[answerme_tender]

He doesn't feel the same as you do. He isn't ready for a relationship that has anything to do with commitment. And yes people actually get scared off. My ex fiancé did and he called it off about 1 month before wedding. Just said couldn't get married, and well I didn't feel that I wanted to play house for rest of mine. I am still having hard time getting over him, but he didn't take him long within 2 week he found someone he could move in with. I am glad I didn't get stuck with an avoider!!

[Marriedguy]

He commitment issue. He is not ready to settle down but you are. Please let go, it’s not you it’s him. He is not really mature enough for serious relationship he still wants to play the field.

In this love game timing is important and the timing is off.

[vanheart]

I agree.

[talaniman]

Or am I just having a hard time accepting he doesn't feel the same for me?

You got it!

[Shadowburn]

Of course you can't help who you love, but this is just a lame excuse for not taking responsibility for your own poor choices.

The guy sounds like a real loser. Break it off with him. You can do better.
In fact, you can't do worse at all. Man who is unwilling to commit, is not worth keeping anyway.

[jmjoseph]

He's not done being a boy yet. Meanwhile he is stringing you along just enough to keep you in the picture. Kind of selfish HUH?

If you are looking for anything more that hanging out, and getting "leftover time", then you've got to find yourself a man for that.

I wish you the best.

[wonderlife]

Have heard someone said that, when you have doubts, especially anything regarding his feelings and his sincerity to you, mostly it means "Don't" almost every time. I have to agree on that.