Originally Posted by
jimmybuffet13
She continues to tell me that it is just something that she does not want to do..
Very sorry but here goes.
I assume your both from the western world and the college you attend is located in non rural America.
I assume your both over 18 and mentally healthy.
I assume she is not with extreme, dogmatic religious rituals.
I assume you know her family and there are no issues.
Was she in relationships prior to college?
Are you familiar with her background?
Are you familiar with human nature and behavior?
OK, let's take this into the lab for analysis or would that be a waste of time? To me it would be a waste of time and from your post there was little to go on aside from the 3 years, college, sleep together, true love, save it for marriage, your frustrated etc.
Going with my assumptions and your text I think of the following and if I'm wrong I apologize at this time. I think you've been misled. Is it possible your girlfriend was stung sometime before you knew her. Is it possible she had intimate contact with some guy she fell for and was dumped? Is it possible she remembers how that felt and wants to avoid any chance of a repeat? Is it possible she was in many very short term intimate relationships? Is it possible she has problems with self control once she's engaged in intimacy, e.g. casualy extending her feelings for intimacy to others? Could intimacy be so distracting that she might fear she'd see her grades drop?
Lots of questions but they are my questions and they are based on many assumptions which is not a good practice but... I find it hard to believe that a healthy and bright young woman can be in a relationship with a healthy and bright young man she's in love with as he is with her for THREE YEARS while sharing the same bed and not answer to a very normal hormonal drive which would be present in the majority of healthy human females experiencing like relationships. Yes I agree this was practiced in the west into the second half of the 20th century and continues to this day in many other cultures and respect is given as it should. It's like having a Ferrari-Enzo in your garage and your partner keeps asking when she can go for a ride and you tell her your going to wait 4 or 5 years and then on the first night after the wedding you'll both take it out for a 4 hour spin. You have the key to the garage and the key to the Ferrari but guess what? That fantastic red machine is not going to start, zip, zero, nope. Believe in magic from time to time but never all the time unless you hold all the keys.