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    jesse612 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 10, 2010, 05:15 PM
    Unsure how to move forward
    I have liked this girl for a while and we were talking about how we both have feelings for each other. Then last week end we went to a big party together with all our friends and I wanted to get with her but I wasn't sure if she liked me and I didn't really see her much all night. Anyway I started dancing with a girl I'm kind of friends with who I think is amazingly good looking and we ended up getting with her and not the girl I liked and she got really salty and seemed desperate for attention. Later that week we were talking and she told me she wanted to get with me and vise versa and started asking heaps of questions about this girl I got with. We ended up kind of liking each other and I asked her to get coffee with me and she was like nah I can't sorry we will do it tomorrow and then she ditched me again and I don't know I talk to her a lot and I wonder if I talk to her too much but yeah I'm not really sure how to move forward and I don't feel like I have much confidence at all what do you thin is the best thing for me to do?
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    Jun 10, 2010, 07:14 PM

    Leave her be and move on with your life. She came after you when you started dancing/talking to another girl and when you turn your attention towards her, she gives excuses.

    Bottom line--She's not worth the time so get yourself involved with hobbies and ignore her.
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    Jun 23, 2010, 11:10 PM
    She is probably annoyed with how much you talk/hang out and wants a break But what's worse is that she wanted to be with you after u got with someone else, then got with and is now done with you. She is using you.
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    Jun 23, 2010, 11:44 PM

    My guess is that she likes/d you and when you "got with" another girl she got upset. You must not like her that much if you "got with" someone else when she was at the same party, in which case I would just let her be. If you were really concerned about her you would have spent time at that party with her anyway.
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    Jul 16, 2010, 04:52 AM

    To me it seems she is a typical "attention seeker". You put a lot of time and effort into her at first, she just leaves you hanging, then ONLY when you are showing interest in someone else she all-of-the-sudden "wants you"? Ask yourself this, "What would happen if I got in a relationship w/ her?" Short, but bitterly honest answer- she would get BORED and seek "attention" elsewhere. Don't let yourself be the "back-up" guy. Life is too damn short to be wasting time on someone who is addicted to attention. These types are NEVER satisfied. Find someone you have a strong chemistry with-on BOTH sides, that is when YOU will be happy and not have to always be "questioning" yourself.
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    Jul 16, 2010, 11:57 AM

    Too many mind games and people "getting with" here for a healthy relationship to develop.You liked a girl but she didn't or she did but not that much,then she did but you didn't,then there's a party where you like another girl,I am sorry but did this girl like you or didn't?Anyway,then girl number one decides she likes you but yet again she doesn't and now you are thinking about whom to like and what to do.

    Excuse me but are you playing peek-a-boo here?Sounds very childish and very shallow to me,forgive me for being harsh.In my books,when you like someone you don't act or sound this way.Know what YOU want first,then try and discover what's going on with other people.
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    Jul 16, 2010, 12:08 PM

    If she was interested, she wouldn't have ditched you. Keep your options open and someone better for you will come along.
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    Jul 16, 2010, 12:14 PM

    If you want to see this girl,ask her out on a date.
    If she ditches you again or says no to the date ,then you have your answer.

    Bottom line,don't play games and make your intentions clear through open honest communication.

    That way ,there will be less misunderstanding in the future.
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    Jul 16, 2010, 11:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ZoeMarie View Post
    My guess is that she likes/d you and when you "got with" another girl she got upset. You must not like her that much if you "got with" someone else when she was at the same party, in which case I would just let her be. If you were really concerned about her you would have spent time at that party with her anyway.
    Couldn't agree more!
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    Jul 17, 2010, 05:08 AM

    Perhaps you and the girl are confused, but if you want to get with her, I think you will have to pick your moment, and don't two time either girl, that's not a wise move.

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