[pumpkinpatch]

I was 6 weeks pregnant, and everything seemed to be going fine. I had an appointment set for the upcoming Monday, 2 days away. I began spotting Saturday afternoon and went immediately to the emergency room where I had my hcg levels tested that turned out to be low (124) and a pelvic exam that showed my cervix was still closed, but I still had a lot of blood inside of me. They sent me home with a threatoned miscarriage diagnosed, and was told to make an appointment the following day for a same day ultrasound, and to discuss having my levels checked again. We made an appointment with a hostpital I had more faith in. (not putting down the doctors, but horror stories can be pursuasive, and being in a hostpital I knew to be good made me a lot more comfortable) it was farther away and takes about 45 minutes to get there, I felt it was worth my time. When I woke up the next day I was still bleeding. And a little more heavily. I began to have slight cramps. We left for my appointment which was at 12:45 at around 11:30, not halfway there I began to feel terribly nauseous, like I was going to pass out, and my pain was unbearable. I ended up blacking out a couple of times, once for a few minutes, and could barely move or see. We turned around and went back to the local hostpital because it was closer and I was sure I couldn't stand to try and make it to the hostpital we were headed for. I could barely walk when we arrived, and was crying in pain and horror. My hcg levels had dropped to 67 and there was no sighn of my baby on the ultrasound. I passed a sack about the size of a small cell phone when I got home.

Should the doctors have done something like clean me out? Will that have any affect on my ability to conceive again? Will the miscarriage have any affect on my ability to conceive again? Will I be more likely to have another miscarriage now that I have had one? How long will I bleed? WHEN CAN WE TRY AGAIN? Why did it happen? Did I do something wrong? What can I do to make my next pregnancy not end like this? Is there something wrong with me?

This was my first pregnancy and my first miscarriage. My husband and I got pregnant on the first try and were so so very happy and excited. We wanted this child so badly. We want to begin trying again as soon as possible.

I am ABSOLUTELY HORRIFIED and don't know what I'm suppsed to do.

I've still been taking the prenatal vitamins to keep myself healthy for when I conceive again. I just really need some answeres and reassurance. The doctor told me that everything looks okay from the ultrasound other than the lack of my child. And my blood was good. I have a follow up scheduled at my hostpital of choice for Friday.

This has been the most horrible and painful experience of my life. Mentally and physically. Any answers will help me, and will be appreciated. If anything it will be comforting to hear words of hope.

Thank you all.

- an angels mommy.

[Stratmando]

From what I read, most Women have at least 1 miscarriage. I would try not to stress on it. Second time may be the charm.
Good Luck. It's not your fault.

[BabiixG]

I had almost the same thing happen to me.only I was about 3 months along. They didn't clean me out because everything came out on it's own. I had 2 miscarriages before I went through a whole pregnancy and had my first child. It's a normal thing to go through as horrible as it is! There is nothing wrong with you and it wasn't your fault! Just keep trying

[J_9]

First let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. I will try to answer your questions to the best of my ability.

1) Should the doctor have cleaned you out? No, not necessarily. This is done only when the miscarriage is not a complete miscarriage. Meaning that not all products of conception have passed naturally. Remember a D&C is a surgical procedure, so it is not done unless absolutely necessary.

2) Will this affect your ability to conceive again? No, it should not. As has been mentioned above many women have at least one miscarriage. Most women don't even know they are pregnant when it happens, they just chalk it up to a heavy painful period.

3) Will you be more likely to have another miscarriage? This is a question no one can answer. If you do have another miscarriage it won't be because of this one. One miscarriage does not cause another.

4) How long will you bleed? Its possible that you could bleed as long as 2 - 3 weeks. This is just an average. Some women stop bleeding earlier and some bleed longer.

5) When can you try again? It's best to wait as long as possible (up to 3 months) so that your body recovers back to prepregnant state.

6) Why did this happen? It is impossible to tell why this happened. I know this is no consolation, but there are many theories. It could be due to hormonal imbalances, genetic factors, implantation was not complete, etc. Unfortunately we never know exactly why it happens unless our patient is a drug addict, was taking a medication during early pregnancy that can cause miscarriage, blunt force trauma to the abdomen.

7) What can you do to make your next pregnancy not end like this? Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Nature takes it course for reasons unknown to us. All you can do is continue to take your prenatal vitamins now, take care of your health, eat properly, avoid alcohol; drugs and cigarettes.

8) Is there something wrong with you? Most likely no, but since we do not know your complete medical history, nor can we do a physical exam or take lab tests, there is no way for us to answer this question.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how hard this is for you.

[Jake2008]

I had suffered miscarriages, and when it becomes an almost predicatable event, then it is time to consider this a high risk pregnancy, and have a specialist advise you on what to do.

One miscarriage does not imply that there is a problem with you, or your ability to carry a child to term. As has been said, many women have gone through this in the early stages and not even realized they were pregnant.

Please have a complete physical with your own Doctor, and let him know what your concerns are. As him all your questions, and set your mind at ease.

[pumpkinpatch]

When I have my follow-up Friday do you think that they'll be able to tell me if there is anything wrong, or anything I need to do? I'm not sure what the follow up is. Can anyone tell me what they do in a follow-up after a miscarriage? Or if I should ask to have tests done to see if there is anything wrong with me. I'm so confused. And devastated.

[J_9]

Honey, again I am sorry for your loss.

Since this is the first miscarriage they will likely not do any testing at this point. Many times a miscarriage is caused due to chromosomal abnormalities of the fetus which causes it not to be able to progress into a fully functioning fetus.

Chances are it has nothing to do with you, but that the fetus was not compatible to sustain life. This happens to most women, but many don't even know they are pregnant.

[BabiixG]

At my followups they gave me an internal exam to make sure that everything was gone and I wouldn't need a D&C its so horrible I'm sorry for your loss too but it doesn't mean that you can't have healthy pregnancies in the future

[pumpkinpatch]

What will they do in the follow up?

I can't help but feel some level of guilt. I know it's not my fault. I just really don't want to have anything like this ever happen to me again. Nobody can tell me it won't. And I know there's no way to tell if it will. My husband and I want to start a family so badly. We were so excited when we found out I was pregnant. We wanted this baby so much. It just seems so unfair. I apologise for being so emotional, all of this happened just yesterday. I just want to avoid all of this happening again.

And thank all of you so much for your answers. It means a lot, And helps just to get feedback.