[ramki_sree]

Hi
I recently visited this forum and I find some useful and wonderful answers for qns about relationships.
With that hope in mind, I want to share my life with you and expecting some good advices from all of you.

I'm male,28. I'm working in good IT company with good salalry package.Recently (4 months back),my brother got married to a girl and she is having a sister.her sister is doing her final semester in the college. So, even during the engagement all my relatives started telling that her sister is for me. Even, I too like her very much.But, I've not taken tis seriously and I tried to be away from her and introducing to her. Then, my brothers introduced her to me and we had good relationship for 2 months. But, all these days I felt that she is not ready to move very close to me or ready to accept my caring nature. I didn't take this seriously and I thought this will be alrite soon.

Oneday, I happened to see the mail she sent to one of his boy friends that she wants to be with him forever.I was really shocked to see that and I told her immediately that I read your mail and who is that guy. I was sleepless that night and I decided to tell her that I like her very much and I want to marry her.

So, she said I don't have that intention and I like you only becoz you are my uncle's(sis husband) brother. I told her,"It's ok..I'm not asking you to marry me tommorow. I just tell you that i care for you more than anyone else". But, she said that she will not change her decision. I informed this to her brother and to her sister, both of them are supporting me. But, she is not at all listening to me.

It's over now. After a month back, I decided to speak to her normally and I want to develop good relationship with her.But, she will not reply to me in proper way sometimes and sometimes talikng to me in very friendly. And, whenevr, I'm going to her home she is so busy with her mobile talking to his boy friends. In their house, they are not taking tis seriously. But, I fell that she may in love with someone else.

My mind is totally confused now. Shall I give time to grow this relationship or shall I give up?

Please, advice me.

[moyra]

What kind of relationship did you have for two months? I think she sees you as a friend not a boyfriend, going on what you have written.

Your relatives have good intentions by telling you that sister was for you, but if the girl has not got feelings for you in that way, you cannot change the way she feels.

I don't feel there is a relationship to grow, I'm sorry, you told her how you felt but she feels no different, so I would give up. It is great you have a good job and salary but there is a lot more to love than finances. You have a caring nature so it won't be long until you find someone that is going to love and care for you right back!