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colie298 · Apr 20, 2010, 10:50 AM

OK. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 years now. And our relationship remains at that just boyfriend/ girlfriend. Two years ago he asked permission to take my hand in marriage and him proposing was supposed to be a surprise. He doesn't know that I know but it still hasent happened. I really love him but I don't want to sit around and wait. So what I'm asking is should I wait for him or should I move on?

I wish · Apr 20, 2010, 11:08 AM

Ask him directly. No need to play mind games, especially after 4 years. You should feel comfortable enough to ask him where he stands AND get a straight answer out of him.

If you don't feel comfortable asking, then you have way more problems than a simple proposal.

Kitkat22 · Apr 20, 2010, 11:13 AM

Originally Posted by I wish

Ask him directly. No need to play mind games, especially after 4 years. You should feel comfortable enough to ask him where he stands AND get a straight answer out of him.

If you don't feel comfortable asking, then you have way more problems than a simple proposal.

Four years is enough time to feel comfortable enough to ask.:)

If you love him would you be happy moving on?

colie298 · Apr 20, 2010, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

Four years is enough time to feel comfortable enough to ask.:)

If you love him would you be happy moving on?

I would not be happy it would take time. I've asked him when am I getting my surprise numerous times and he kept saying I don't know or he would just ignore the question. I just don't know if I should wait for him or break it off and attempt to move on when I'm ready

Kitkat22 · Apr 20, 2010, 09:12 PM

Originally Posted by colie298

i would not be happy it would take time. ive asked him when am i getting my suprise numerous times and he kept saying i dont know or he would just ignore the question. i just dont know if i should wait for him or break it off and attempt to move on when im ready

Please look at the advice... Good Luck Sweetie... Hugs and Blessings:)

Devorameira · Apr 22, 2010, 06:07 AM

You really need to quit beating around the bush asking him about the "surprise" and simply ask him where the relationship stands, is heading, and when the engagement/marriage is going to happen.

After being with him for 4 years, if he can't give you a clear response, then I'd say you should move on and find someone who's on the same page as you.

Kitkat22 · Apr 22, 2010, 11:02 AM

Originally Posted by Devorameira

You really need to quit beating around the bush asking him about the "surprise" and simply ask him where the relationship stands, is heading, and when the engagement/marriage is going to happen.

After being with him for 4 years, if he can't give you a clear response, then I'd say you should move on and find someone who's on the same page as you.

Ask him... Say " Okay is marriage in the near future or not". If it is I want to know now! If it's not I'm finished. I 'm moving on and don't expect me to wait till you're ready. I've waited four years and that's enough". You have to mean it when you say it. Good Luck!:)