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ThinkTink · Feb 3, 2010, 10:13 PM

So, I have been talking to this boy lately and he likes me and I kind of like him. So we have talked and his friend Canaan decided to "hook" us up. Well yesterday I said yes and then I talked to him on Myspace IM and he was all like, "Oh yeah I am toking it up right now and I was drunk since after lunch." What? Why on God's green Earth do I care about what you did? I want him to stop doing that, but what do I say to make him stop? Should I even be with this guy? I don't do drugs or drink so am I even compatible with him? He has been such a jerk. I don't know if I even want to be around this kind of person. Any tips? :confused:

friend4u178 · Feb 3, 2010, 10:15 PM

Find someone who your compatible with , this will only lead to heartbreak.

ThinkTink · Feb 3, 2010, 10:21 PM

I can't find anyone. If only God made men with women's brains!

amicon · Feb 3, 2010, 10:22 PM

No don't waste your time.
And don't let his problems drive you crazy,find other guys to date that don't do drugs and drink around the clock.

mafiaangel180 · Feb 3, 2010, 10:22 PM

You should be with someone with whom you share similar values with. You don't need his drama/issues.

CarrotTalker · Feb 3, 2010, 10:23 PM

Trust me, there are plenty of boys/men out there that are not completely messed up in the head. They just might not always be as obvious of a choice.

ThinkTink · Feb 3, 2010, 10:26 PM

I like him but I don't think this is going anywhere with us. We hardly talk but I don't know. We only talk over text/IM it's crazy he is really shy. What can I say to make him stop doing drugs?

friend4u178 · Feb 3, 2010, 10:28 PM

Originally Posted by ThinkTink

I can't find anyone. If only God made men with women's brains!

Oooh... a strong person that can multi task... scary :eek: ;)

CarrotTalker · Feb 3, 2010, 10:28 PM

Originally Posted by ThinkTink

I like him but I don't think this is going anywhere with us. We hardly talk but I don't know. We only talk over text/IM it's crazy he is really shy. What can I say to make him stop doing drugs?

You can't do anything to stop his drug problem. It likely stems from serious psychological issues that a trained professional should handle, not a fellow student the same age.

MsMewiththat · Feb 3, 2010, 10:31 PM

He's not shy... he's high!
You can't say anything to make him stop. It's his journey right now. I am going to say one thing. Ok, more than one thing. Whitney Houston/Bobby Brown.
If she would have just walked away and found someone that she was more compatible with. Someone that she "had something in common" with, would she have spent the years she spent fighting her addiction? Don't do it. They have a way of asking you to "try it". DON'T COMPRIMSE YOUR VALUES FOR SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T CARE ABOUT THEIRS.

ThinkTink · Feb 3, 2010, 10:38 PM

I made him promise me that I would be more important then his drugs but I don't know. I would never ever do drugs. I can't stand being around smoke. I cough and die if I burn toast, I guarantee that if he even dares asking me to try it I will slap him so hard his grand kids would feel it. With Valentines day coming up, I really don't want to be alone this year (again)

MsMewiththat · Feb 3, 2010, 10:41 PM

Don't you get it that if you are with someone that you really don't want to be with your still alone. Don't settle, that's not necessary.

ThinkTink · Feb 3, 2010, 10:43 PM

I kind of like him though, I can't explain it. We have known each other for awhile, and it kind of feels right being with him. Ugh, too much drama for one person to handle!

friend4u178 · Feb 3, 2010, 10:51 PM

Well you might not like him later , he could end up looking like this if he continues using drugs :rolleyes:

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MsMewiththat · Feb 4, 2010, 08:18 AM

Originally Posted by ThinkTink

I kinda like him though, I can't explain it. We have known each other for awhile, and it kinda feels right being with him. Ugh, to much drama for one person to handle!

So your either going to take advice when given or do want you want. Make it work for you.

HistorianChick · Feb 4, 2010, 08:23 AM

Originally Posted by ThinkTink

I made him promise me that I would be more important then his drugs but I don't know. I would never ever do drugs. I can't stand being around smoke. I cough and die if I burn toast, I guarantee that if he even dares asking me to try it I will slap him so hard his grand kids would feel it. With Valentines day coming up, I really don't want to be alone this year (again)

The fact that Valentines Day is coming up shouldn't make you give in or give up your values.

You will never do drugs; or, that's what you say now. You can't stand smoke; try kissing someone who smokes. You say that you'll slap him if he asks you to try smoking/drugs; yet, you are willing to go out with someone who does those things - and does them with abandon.

There's a huge double standard here... and it comes from desperation to not be alone at Valentines Day.

You need to realize that you and your standards are worth more than a box of chocolates or a partner for dinner.

neverme · Feb 4, 2010, 08:39 AM

Well I really don't know why you came on here, and it's not to be rude but you know yourself that this isn't a good idea your just lonely.

Now don't get me wrong, I understand and feel your pain but Valentine's Day Shmalentine's Day!

It's a BS ploy and it has nothing to do with real love. You know what I'd prefer a bloody hug on a bad day in November over a drug fueled eejit on the 14th of February.

But you know what? By all means walk down a slippery slope for the sake of 24 hours.

You say that you have something with him, how can you? A person is not themselves when they're stoned or high. Your views are totally opposing on this, a very important matter.

talaniman · Feb 4, 2010, 08:46 AM

Should I even be with this guy?

No way. You may be attracted to him now, just because your lonely, want a Valentines card, but you will quickly tire of a stoner with no conversation other than duh, pass the joint.

What's the saddest part, is you will waste a lot of time on this dope head when you could be looking for, and getting a real good guy who will buy you chocolates, and not a bag of weed.

I'd rather be alone than with a loser, and what are you going to do AFTER Valentines Day?? He will still be a stoner.

I wish · Feb 4, 2010, 08:50 AM

Over 6 billion other people in the world... try counting to 6 billion out loud and see how many that is.

I'm sure you can find someone else that you are more compatible with.

mafiaangel180 · Feb 4, 2010, 06:13 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

what are you going to do AFTER Valentines Day??? He will still be a stoner.

Maybe she wants marshmallow peeps for Easter... lol. Sorry couldn't resist. There is always some damned holiday around the corner.