[slappymcd]

When I was a baby my birth father died, my parents were not together. I have my father's date of birth & death, where he resided at the time of death. I have a copy of the accident report. I also have his younger brothers name and previous address (this was in the late 1960's)/ Would like to find out any information regarding my father, my mother has told me next to nothing. My mother also told me that my father was into some sort of "trouble" - maybe regarding drugs? If his brother is still alive, would love to talk with him about who my father was. If he isn't alive I'd like to get any information on who my father was and what he was like - good and bad.
Prior to my birth, my birth parents gave up a son for adoption. I know the state where the adoption occurred and maybe the name of where it took place. It was a closed adoption & my mother wants NOTHING to do with this (she is still alive). This is the only FULL BLOOD relative I would ever know and it feels important to me for some unexplainable reason.
I've tried looking online and it seems everyone wants money, etc. There has to be an easier way to do this??
Any help would be so appreciated. It has taken me many, many years to get to the place where I am now, which is comfortable with any and all outcomes that may or may not occur.
Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance.

[badlefthand]

Start by checking court house records,funeral notices,newspapers.Run his last name in genoligy sites in state where births took place.Find the marriage lic. And check for wedding notice.Not nearly as hard as it sounds.Good luck,

[Synnen]

For your uncle--try Facebook, Google, and other peoplefinder services.

For your sibling--you're probably out of luck. You can post the information you have on reunion websites, but if your mother wants NOTHING to do with this--don't you think you should respect her wishes? Adoption is something of an open wound for many birth parents--especially with closed adoption--and it takes YEARS to come to terms with it. If your mother wants to leave it alone, your search may just be tearing those wounds back open for her and pouring salt and lemon juice in them.

Again... for the most part, you get what you pay for. If you're not willing to pay, there are reunion websites out there (ISRR is a great one if you're not part of the adoption triad), but your results are going to be only as good as the information you have--and only good at all if the adoptee you're looking for 1. Knows she/he is adopted and 2. is looking for birth family.

If the adoption happened in the 60s, odds are that your sibling never knew she/he was adopted.