[the only hardy girl here]

Ok here is the thing my boy fried was a wrestler and he nos how to get a girl he is currently under house arrest and he can't see me even though we have 3 children together and one on the way how do I do I cope with nowing him and his ex fiancé are living next door and he has been cheating on me with her and she says she is expecting so now I don't know what to do pks heklp?

[MsMewiththat]

Sounds like he knows how to get a girl pregnant. I'm not certain what you find attractive about a man that cheats on you. Concentrate on that. Nobody deserves to be treated that way and once you realize that you will set yourself higher than you hold him. You have more important things to concern yourself with. You have three lives that are here and one on the way. If you are not receiving child support, get it and move on. I know easier said than done, but keep moving.

[Fr_Chuck]

Real winner there, cheating on you with girl next door, getting her pregnant and on house arrest.
WOW,

Plus why can't he "see" you,

How much child support is he paying
( I bet I can guess that answer)

I would cope by making sure you have child custody orders and child support orders in place.

[the only hardy girl here]

To fr_chuck he can't see me because for one he lives out of state ik what was I thining and well he siad he can't leave state

[the only hardy girl here]

Msew/ththat
I can't leave him I mean I do love him I just don't no what to do about this I mean I don't want to go to the extreme

[amicon]

You get child support sorted out and thank your lucky stars he 'cant see you'-he's a complete loser-get your selfrespect back and stop wanting a man who's a complete waste of space.

[jaime90]

Love does not equal cheating. If the guy is cheating on you, he doesn't truly love you. There's a good chance that he has charmed you into being with him. Don't let your emotions and feelings get in the way. Think about this with your head: you may have feelings for this guy, but he is cheating, and does not truly love you. It would be best for you to leave. The relationship is unhealthy.

[the only hardy girl here]

To jamie 90
It is not that I haven't thought about this I have and I really want to make thigs work so any advice?

[Justwantfair]

HARSH ADVICE a/k/a TRUTH: You can not make a relationship work by yourself. You are being used and you are a doormat. He will be with whomever he wants whenever he wants and he will come back to you whenever he is bored. He has no respect for you, as you have no respect for yourself.

You can make the change or the advice is deal, you are making this choice for yourself and your children. You may also want to think about some birth control options.

Imagine how you will feel when your daughter disrespects herself in the same regard that you are.

[jaime90]

You cannot fix a man who cheats on you, and you shouldn't try to fix him. I highly doubt he WANTS to change. The guy was engaged, he broke up with his fiancée, got you pregnant 3 times and then went back to his ex-fiancee? This guy is not in it for the long-run, he'd rather just take advantage of women. He cheated on you once, he can so again. He has lost trust with you, trust that, I hope, will be either extremely difficult, or impossible for him to gain back. The best way for you to fix your problem is to move on to a guy that you actually deserve, learn from your mistakes, and don't contact this lousy excuse for a boyfriend ever again. It may be harsh, but honestly... the guy is cheating and you want to fix things with him? This is why you need to set your feelings aside, and look at this a little differently.

[MsMewiththat]

You asked for advice on what to do and everyone that has given it to you has said the same thing. You don't like what you are hearing because it is the truth. Here's the deal.. I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear, it's not worth it. Do this exercise:
I think you should think of this as being someone other than you perhaps your daughter and answer honestly what you would advice that person to do and then do it.

[jaime90]

I don't understand how you can love a man that clearly doesn't love you. Not only that but how can you want to fix it? The man doesn't love you- he is cheating, and as I said before, chances are, he doesn't WANT to change.

[dontknownuthin]

Dump him. You can do without him - he's a negative and abusive force in your life who brings nothing to the table. You are likely more in love with your idea of who you'd like him to be rather than with the man himself. He's a multiple-time loser and needs to be single to straighten himself out. Move on!

[Cat1864]

Ok here is the thing my boy fried was a wrestler and he nos how to get a girl he is currently under house arrest and he can't see me even though we have 3 children together and one on the way how do i do i cope with nowing him and his ex fiance are living next door and he has been cheating on me with her and she says she is expecting so now idk what to do pks heklp?!

to fr_chuck he can't see me because for one he lives out of state ik what was i thining and well he siad he can't leave state

You must live on the state border for these two posts to make any sense at all.

I do believe that you are playing games and it isn't with 'him'.

[the only hardy girl here]

No it is I live away from him now but he's still trying to stalk me and yes it is and now I'm trying to get full custody and I am moving with my parents

[I wish]

Take him to court and clear up all the legal issues.

Your children should be your priority. You need to create the healthiest environment for your children to grow up in. Your children should live free of so much drama.