[Dave605]

Hey guys, I'm 18 and I was going out with a girl that was 21. We were only together for about 3 weeks or so before we kind of drifted apart. She had a lot of stuff going on and didn't have time for me so I thought it was only natural to break away and not be strung around. After about a full week of no contact from her I just thought to cut my losses. I tried to text and call her but she never called me back so I assumed it was over. I talked to her and told her in person things weren't working out between us. She's a country girl and really into shooting and crazy outdoor stuff. I'm a city/beach guy and I'm into surfing. We kind of clash. I took it for what it was worth and moved on.

Now to present time. She contacted me on myspace a couple days ago and we started talking again. Turns out she had some creepy stalker guy that was making false statements to her friends and she didn't want him to find out about me and tell me lies about her.. I don't really understand that part. If she would have just told me about him I would have went and beat his but whatever.. She disappeared on me to protect me she says. From some dude spreading lies about her.. OK. I was like uhh all right.. then she tells me how she's been cutting out a lot of her old habbits. Like shooting and being way too manly. I told her one of the reasons I broke up with her in the past was because of our difference. Her being the country/tomboy and me being the city guy/surfer guy. So she tells me she cut a lot of her habbits and she's changing to be that city girl.. not directly saying to be the city gir that I wanted but she did say she was changing to be a city girl. It reminded me a long time ago what I told her.

So long story short.. she comes back and expects me to take her back or at least try something with her again. She told me she would give me the time I deserve and she really cares for me still and she has this whole time.. of course we haven't talked before this in 6 months.. so yea. I basically forgot about her because we only lasted like 3 weeks anyway. I told her I wasn't really wanting to just jump right back in with her.. I've had other girls and tasted other smells and sights and really liked what I saw. I told her we could be friends for now and see what happens. She was kind of bummed about it but accepted it. She expected me to be pissed at her and never want to talk to her again. Which I should have been rightfully so but I wasn't. I was really understanding because honestly it didn't bother me anymore.

She told me she would rather be friends than nothing at all but she was going to stick to me like glue and her feelings for me wouldn't change. If I was to take her back she promised to give me the time I deserved and wouldn't leave me hanging like that again.. and oh yea she told me she thinks I'm mr right and the one and all that. Not yet but in time she thinks I could be.


So basically what I'm asking is this. Is this girl real or did she have some problems with her last guy and came back to me? We didn't break up over another person. She was just too busy to give me any time at all and I wasn't going to wait around for her to put me in her schedule. We only lasted for 3 weeks, so for her to even remember my number or myspace or anything she must have been keeping tabs on me maybe.. I don't know. What do you guys think. Should I go for round 2?

[amicon]

You barely lasted round one and she sounds a bit strange so no-dont go down that road again.

[Romefalls19]

3 weeks? Honeymoons last longer than that, how is she going to react when it's 6 months old?

Save yourself the problems and avoid

[talaniman]

The good news, is you really don't have to decide anything at this point. The better news, I think your smart enough to figure out if she is worth the risk or not.

Obviously your not sold completely on the idea, and your probably right.

Talaniman rules- When you get dumped, why go back, and get dumped again.

[Ithappenstoall]

You are asking us if you should go for it, clearly you not sure and you are right. I would not take this further, and I think you know that to. I am sure you can feel that in your gut