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    Oct 19, 2009, 07:25 AM
    Sticky situation
    Hi, last summer my girlfriend broke up with me. She told me she couldn't do a long distance relationship anymore because she goes to school out of town... this has happened many times before but this time it was legit. Sometime near the end of the summer she kind of comes back to me... but after leaving for school again tells me she slept with her ex boyfriend. Well I was raged for a week that she would break up with me sleep with him then come back... and well I did something stupid and morally wrong to me. I had sex with a prostitute... something I swore to myself id never do... I can't remember exactly what went through my head... but I was not in the right mind and I cannot shake this guilt that she probably went and bought drugs with it and I contributed to ruining her life even further... and on top of that my ex still loves me but she's still unstable... I don't know what to do... shoul di tell her even though we aren't together? Will she ever look at me the same?
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    Oct 19, 2009, 08:16 AM

    Move on... its clear there is no longer a relationship there... so don't dwell over it. What was... was... and now it isn't.

    Move on and stop looking back.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 12:54 PM

    The relationship with your ex is over. The second that the cheating started it was over.
    So, forgive yourself for acting badly when you were hurt, don't sleep with any more hookers, you might get some disease that you don't want.
    Move on, and try to have a good life.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 02:34 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bronzebabe View Post
    The relationship with your ex is over. The second that the cheating started it was over.
    So, forgive yourself for acting badly when you were hurt, don't sleep with any more hookers, you might get some disease that you don't want.
    Move on, and try to have a good life.
    Thank you both for your opinions. Its helped me greatly. I can't seem to let go of this girl probably because she's my first everything... but I know its best that I do. Be good, have a great life :)
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    Oct 19, 2009, 02:55 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by bronzebabe View Post
    you might get some disease that you don't want.
    There is really no delicate way to ask if you got the Chlamydia from your ex or the prostitute (I read his question in Men's Health). If you don't know, have you talked to your ex about being tested for STDs? That should be the last contact you need to have with her.

    Let her go her own way and you go yours.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 04:32 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    There is really no delicate way to ask if you got the Chlamydia from your ex or the prostitute (I read his question in Men's Health). If you don't know, have you talked to your ex about being tested for STDs? That should be the last contact you need to have with her.

    Let her go her own way and you go yours.
    I should tell her to get tested. She did complain a lot of lower back pain lol. Could be it.
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    Oct 19, 2009, 04:39 PM
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    I should tell her to get tested. She did complain alot of lower back pain lol. Could be it.
    Sorry, I am not laughing.

    Yes, you should.
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    Oct 20, 2009, 04:33 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    Sorry, I am not laughing.

    Yes, you should.
    Cat would you happen to know how long roughly someone could expect to see HIV symptoms? And if any, how intense they would be if just starting?
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    Oct 20, 2009, 04:40 PM

    You need to get TESTED.

    Period.

    I'm sure that just like every other disease out there, HIV/AIDS manifests differently for every person that gets it.
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    Oct 20, 2009, 05:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Synnen View Post
    You need to get TESTED.

    Period.

    I'm sure that just like every other disease out there, HIV/AIDS manifests differently for every person that gets it.
    Way ahead of you man, just want a little clarity of mind... ive spent over a month in complete agony over all of this. I've learned my lessons here I believe. I hope its not one that's going to shorten my already short time.

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