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sophie12345 · Sep 29, 2009, 03:54 AM

OK so I have been with my boyfriend 2 and a half years, yet I find out that on his Facebook / myspace etc , he hasn't put he is in a relationship , and on his messages I have found that he has been saying to girls he is SINGLE, when he goes out clubbing he says I'm SINGLE, he's been giving girls his phone number, and in the past I've heard he has kissed girls etc etc, he doesn't know I know his facebook/myspace password so how do I confront him , that I KNOW he has been chatting and giving his phone number out to girls? Why does he stay with me , what should I do ? Please help me:mad::confused::(:mad:

amicon · Sep 29, 2009, 04:17 AM

You re going to have to confront him and own up to having checked his Facebook etc.
Unless of course you want to live with this knowledge and do nothing about it?
If he is a cheater and he may well be, dump him.
Sorry to be harsh but do you really wish to be with a man you can't trust?
No trust equals no relationship.

kctiger · Sep 29, 2009, 05:20 AM

Well, to be honest you both have violated each other's trust. Do the ends justify the means? You are finding this stuff out but to an extent that becomes detrimental to your relationship. Tell him your concerns, come clean with what you know and HOW you know it and then I would be done. I don't see how you can rebuild the trust you two had. Once the trust is gone, the relationship is gone. Sucks, but that's the way it is.

Romefalls19 · Sep 29, 2009, 06:53 AM

I think the bigger questions is, why are YOU with him? You know all of these facts, why bother staying?

troy70 · Sep 29, 2009, 08:28 AM

Communication.

Good luck!

Starry nights · Sep 30, 2009, 03:34 AM

KC,I totally agree... if both of you feel the need to hide stuff from each other(you,logging on to his profiles etc and he,cavorting behind your back),then its purely a trust issue that you both need to figure out.

Now that you know,rather than feeling miserable with the information inside your head,come clean with your guy and confront him with what you know.Theres no point keeping all of it to yourself and brooding.In any case,I suppose,its all good,because at least you have chanced upon something as vital as him wanting to play the field even after 21/2 yrs.Which,again,isn't the sign of a decent,healthy relationship.

Gemini54 · Sep 30, 2009, 04:00 AM

He sounds like a total and utter jerk. I suppose the only consolation is, that at least now you know!

Tell him you've got the lowdown on his sneaky behavior and that you've got his password as well. Tell him he's a cheating creep and you hope that those cheating lips drop off. Tell him that you're putting 'single' on YOUR facebook/myspace page now.

Kick him to the kerb.

I wish · Sep 30, 2009, 04:59 AM

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue is the same thread.

If it's true that he's telling other girls that he's single. That he's giving away his phone number. That he's kissing other girls. Then it doesn't even sound like he's treating you as his girlfriend. I don't even think you need to break up with him because it sounds like he's already broken up with you indirectly. His heart's not even in this relationship.

How can you still trust a repeat-cheater?

talaniman · Sep 30, 2009, 01:08 PM

I KNOW he has been chatting and giving his phone number out to girls? Why does he stay with me , what should I do ? Please help me

He stays because he thinks you'll never find out about his cheating. Dump him, and let him figure it out. Don't go back either, as he will only get smarter in hiding what he is doing.