[snow124]

For me, it was deleting her as a friend on various social networking sites. I did it because I anticipate she'll start seeing someone else soon (she didn't have a problem with it when we were together, so I don't see why there'd be any reservations now that we're apart) and I didn't want to read about any of that. So, I deleted her in the interest of saving myself more heartbreak in the near future, but it feels like I severed any remaining connection with her... in a good way. I feel like it brought closure to our relationship.

I wasn't sure if this was a common result of doing that, so I figured I'd ask - what brought you closure?

[talaniman]

Accepting that a partner was unwilling to work with me on a relationship.

[JohnnyBlog]

Still waiting. I think it will be more a mental thing that just happens rather then something physical but things like social sites and ways of communicating being closed does help speed up that mental process.

[Devilfish]

Changing my number and email address

[Fuzzball_Kara]

I had closure when I thought to myself "wow, what a selfish jerk. Aw well. Single woman party!" THen I got this awesome boyfriend who treats me so right it's incredible

[Nestorian]

Finding myself, learning to love, respect and understand myself.

Just being myself.

P.S. I guess I should add, I'm still in the process.

[Lovelee]

He emailed me all the time after we were done and I answered him up until he asked me if I wanted him to stop emailing (because his attempts to get me back wasn't working) so I never responded and he finally got the message and never wrote back since, its brought me closure then.

[kaitou]

I got my closure, when I finally realized I deserve someone that is willing to put in effort to be with me.

Funny thing is, I found someone that treat me like a princess soon after I made up my mind, and finally let the other guy go.

[none12345]

Hey Snow what brought me closure, I got a few things:

- NC
- Knowing she was moving on with her life without me
- meeting new awesome people on here and through friends
- Family and friends support and AMHD support
- Acceptance that its over
- Feeling relieved that I don't have to feel hurt or be in a complicated situation anymore
- Music
- Knowing I deserve someone better, that is loyal and will love me no matter what
- Inspirational books, feeling and look great with a set of new clothes XD

All of these things played a part in my closure. Although some seems to be how to get over a relationship but getting over one is part of what I consider closure =P

[Silverfoxkit]

For me, as odd as it may seem to many if not most, closure came with forgiveness. Even when the breakups were ugly or sad, I couldn't find true peace within myself until I forgave and learned to just become friends again. Once I could do that I wasn't left with sticky deep feelings of resentment or hatred that can eat a person's soul hence truly able to move forward.

[kctiger]

I will have to agree with Silver a bit. There were a ton of things I can think of that perhaps added to the closure, but having the true sense it was over never really happened until I learned to not be angry with what happened, and accept this as life. If you still carry around the anger and sorrow, then letting go is still an afterthought...

I would say as far as closure, seeing her with another man on my birthday pretty much gave me the boot to my arse I needed to go through with the other stuff... change my phone number, block her emails, get rid of Facebook, all that stuff. Once, however, I learned to forgive and to not really care what she did, that was when I really started living life.

[snow124]

I would think not caring what your ex does would be a sign that you've already found closure, not necessarily something that brings it.

I understand that harboring anger and sorrow about what happened in a past relationship and can prevent you from putting it behind you, but what about disappointment? I function kind of strangely in that I very rarely get angry - but I still find myself really disappointed by the things my ex did to destroy our relationship. I imagine this will eventually be phased out with acceptance, but do any of you think it'll prevent me from really moving on?

[kctiger]

Closure: Realizing it is OVER for good... (as I stated in my above post, by seeing her with another guy)

Moving on: Living your life without a care about what she is doing... doing things for you (once again, stated in my above post). Yes, if you still harbor anger towards her I think it will prevent you from moving on. Think about it this way, if you are still wasting emotions on her, then how can you be truly over her?

You bring your own closure. It is whatever you want it to be. Perhaps it can be a combination of things, but ultimately, closure is whatever helps you STOP acting like you will eventually be back together. To me, it is when you finally have no more sense of false hope.

[talaniman]

Only if you let it. You're the one responsible for your own healing, and moving on.

[Romefalls19]

My closure was when on Christmas, she started seeing the same guy that she had told me "she had no feelings for and just worked together" once you lie and make me angry, I start getting busy living my life by my own accord.

[Arzy99]

My situation was kind of similar to yours Rome... my closure came when I found out from a 3rd party she was going out with/seeing the same guy she had been getting close to for a few weeks (when we were together).. I was confused when she left me, since she gave me the reason that she "felt uncomfortable in a relationship and didnt know why"... but when I found out she really left me due to this other guy, I had found my closure... I initiated NC and I haven't turned back! (Many thanks to the guys on AMHD for this)