What should I do?

TALK2VIVI · Dec 8, 2008, 05:10 AM

How do I know he loves me even when he says he don't love me anymore?

Irishgirl · Dec 8, 2008, 05:30 AM

I don't understand your question-he prob says what he means

kctiger · Dec 8, 2008, 06:58 AM

Well, I think you now know he doesn't love you... so the answer to your question, "How do you know he loves you?" He doesn't. Sorry and I don't mean to be harsh.

TALK2VIVI · Dec 9, 2008, 03:19 AM

What are the tips towards winning back your ex-guy and making him to love you more?

stevetcg · Dec 9, 2008, 06:04 AM

No tips - if he is your ex, he had a reason. Chances are you can't change that reason, so get over him and move on is my only tip.

You can't make someone love you more. They will love you how much they do. Trying will likely only make you seem needy which I suspect would have the opposite effect.

kctiger · Dec 9, 2008, 06:46 AM

I will say this, and by all means it isn't a sure fire way to get your ex back, but it is a way to move on and let life happen. When you break up, it is for a reason. The biggest mistake people make is thinking that just getting back together again will change that reason and everything becomes a fantasy. NOT so! You need to build a better life around yourself, enjoy doing things that make you who you are, and work on things you don't like about yourself. Eventually you will find yourself loving life and enjoying yourself, as a person, without some guy there to 'validate' you. When this happens, life will have a funny way of showing up and 'delivering the goods' so to speak. Love will find you, and who knows, it could be your ex (I would hope not), but most likely it will be someone that was really made to be with you, and your happiness will be so great your ex won't even cross your mind anymore.

talaniman · Dec 9, 2008, 07:41 AM

Get a guy who feels that way already, and you don't have to play those games with him.

roxypox · Dec 9, 2008, 12:17 PM

Seriously, you can't make it happen! (It's called a break up, because it's broken!) and it can't be fixed. You just need to realize it and move on!

You can't make someone want you AFTER its over!

ZoeMarie · Dec 9, 2008, 12:19 PM

You really can't force someone to like you.

TALK2VIVI · Jan 7, 2009, 01:46 AM

My boyfriend has been denying of cheating on me until I caught him red handed. What do I do? do I leave him or continue?

411Help · Jan 7, 2009, 01:54 AM

You leave him, simply put. Why would you want to stay with somebody that's low, has no morals, and, is simply a coward?

ThatGuy2 · Jan 7, 2009, 02:01 AM

Leave now because he's going to do it again if you forgive him, unless you like this pain... If you can't stop loving him even after this, then do your best to accept it. Only then will you be able to move on without the bitterness. So much easier if you could just hate him.

411Help · Jan 7, 2009, 02:02 AM

Don't hate him, he doesn't even deserve that. The only thing he deserves, is for you to shut the door of communication between you two, FOREVER.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 7, 2009, 05:26 AM

If you don't mind dating someone who is going out with other people,
Normally dumping them is what people do

HistorianChick · Jan 7, 2009, 06:27 AM

Relationships are built upon trust. You cannot trust someone who is cheating on you. Therefore, you should not be in a relationship with that person.

It's that simple.

kctiger · Jan 7, 2009, 07:00 AM

Cheating is a slippery sloap to so much other stuff. So... unless you want to continue the lies, being used and all the other stuff, get out now. No one deserves to be cheated on. It speaks of low character and no morality.

talaniman · Jan 7, 2009, 08:03 AM

Leave now, or pay even more later. Lying and cheating is a deal breaker.

jmw0713 · Jan 7, 2009, 08:12 AM

Done, Done, Done!

No trust = No relationship.

Cheating is trust breaker, therefore a deal breaker.

TALK2VIVI · Jan 14, 2009, 12:29 AM

All my life, I have always have bitter experiences with men, especially the ones I have loved with all my heart. I tried being nice, delligent and faithful but all seems worst. As it is right now, I have made up my mind to face my life alone without any man in my life because I'm really really bittered that at times I had no option but to cry for myself.
What do I do? Have I taken the right decision? Please I need to know.

411Help · Jan 14, 2009, 12:38 AM

You need to take the time to properly heal before you jump from relationship to relationship. That's probably what the problem is.

It sounds like you've manifested a great deal of pain and hurt over the years, and did not properly deal with these emotions.

Heal, deal with the hurt, and go out and date with an open mind.

Don't let the actions of one man dictate how you judge another.

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