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    Reicheru-006 Posts: 54, Reputation: 4
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    Dec 6, 2008, 05:50 PM
    Try to push this friendship
    SORRY FOR MY SPELLING IN ADVANCE!!

    I've got this guy friend I'm suddenly getting closer to and I'm really happy about it. I was friends with this chick who's still my friend but since she got a boyfriend, my guy friend isn't so close to her anymore, I'm kind of taking her place. I'm starting to see him as maybe boyfriend material but I don't know if he sees me that way. We talk all the time and we laugh at each other and stuff. We don't exactly hang out outside of school but at our lunch table I'm kind of the only one who really listens to what he has to say instead of looking at him and say some comment then go back to their previous conversation like my other friends... and I'm being updated on his relationships and I feel like that's kind of a step in our friendship and I feel like were bonding but as I'm almost getting caught up in this, he just acts the same and just seems relaxed and very comfetable with me... and probably doesn't seem to see me more than just a friend...

    How can I make our friendship take a step to where I want to go when he breaks up with his girlfriend? ( they don't really last long because some girls he picks are es and he goes for the pretty.. but I think we'd last awhile)

    Thanks!
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    Dec 11, 2008, 08:12 AM

    Hmm, this isn't something you can force Im afraid. Maybe he just likes you as a friend. You should ask him to go out with you outside of school, or even in a group of people to see if he acts any differently.

    To be honest, a guy who dates girls for short periods... its not likely that he'd be with you for a long time.

    Just bide your time and see what happens. Watch how he treats other girls.
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    Dec 11, 2008, 08:27 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 8120joy View Post
    Watch how he treats other girls.

    I agree.

    I see some possible red flags on this guy. People can seem so nice at first. But if he's not with anyone very long and he picks girls for their looks or low self esteem, then breaks up with them quickly, that doesn't say anything very good about him. Definitely take your time evaluating him. And don't abandon your other friends in the mean time. Stay connected to others.

    Good luck!
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    Dec 13, 2008, 09:32 AM

    While he has a girlfriend, then he is not available, so don't get carried away by your own feelings. He may not feel the way you want him to, so be careful, your not wishing for what you can't have.

    Don't wait for him to break up, and see things your way, keep doing your own thing, and be happy with what your doing.
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