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    SweetBeth Posts: 23, Reputation: 2
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    Nov 15, 2008, 10:01 AM
    He won't touch me
    I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years,we just bought a house together,well I should say he bought,my little girl and I just live there,even though I do work full time too. The thing is, he never wants to spend any time with me anymore,we haven't been intimate with each other in probably a good 4 months,but he still wants to "cuddle" at night.When I ask him about why we haven't,he just says he's always tired,and he does work a very strenuous job with long hours,but I just feel rejected and hurt by this.we're both young,I'm 26. And when he does get a day off he usually is too busy drinking and hanging with his best friend,that by the time he comes to bed he's usless anyway.Why won't he have sex with me? I really do try and he just uses excuses "i"m tired" "I got a headache" "my back hurts".What do I do??
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    Nov 15, 2008, 10:10 AM

    In this case, I would suggest once sit and talk to him or take him out for a dinner and ask him tat you need 2 talk , den you tell your prob very lovingly be romantic and supportive 2wards him, see how he reacts and answers you n say him how this kind of situation can make you apart, make him aware of d fear of losing you n u losing him, I think it'll help it out.
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    Nov 15, 2008, 10:12 AM
    Or else u can directly approach him n ask him for what u need 2
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    Nov 15, 2008, 10:24 AM
    So many young couples go through this same thing, and fail to make some adjustments along the way.

    Back off him, and start do things for you, that make you happy without him. That keeps you from taking it personally when he is tired, or stressed ,and gives you the lift you need to be happy about yourself.

    Lack of sex in a relationship is generally only a symptom of a bigger issue in the relationship, that needs to be addressed. You can only get to the heart of the matter through some honest communications, and a lot of listening, and paying attention to each other.

    The last thing you need is to take the burden on yourself, and feel guilty or insecure, as you will miss things you need to see while you feel sorry for yourself.

    The process of understanding our partners is a process, so be patient and observant.
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    Nov 17, 2008, 07:49 AM

    Thank you all for your comments

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