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    Sep 16, 2008, 08:13 PM
    How do I get my husband to go to work?
    I have been married to my husband for 23 years. We raised 7 children. I worked the entire time and have always paid my own way. He has been out of work the last 3 summers - taking the entire summer off.
    Our marriage has been rocky due to his addition to porn. I would leave him however we are in debt and he would bankrupt us if I tried.
    Any ideas?
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    Sep 16, 2008, 08:56 PM
    You do not want a divorce because you are in debt or that you love him? That is the real question. Taking the entire summer off would be great! Yet, if you are in debt it is irresponible. I would love to quit and stay home or take a few month off. I do not because I am a grown up with bills. Stand up and be strong. If he is not working he better be doing all the house work. How much debt would you be in without having to support him as well?
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    Sep 17, 2008, 07:08 AM
    How has his summers off ACTUALLY affected your finances? 23 years of marriage is a long time, raising seven kids, sounds to me like you've done OK, even with his summer vacations. Is this NOT true?

    How has his addiction to porn ACTUALLY affected your marriage?     Are you sure it's not just your hate of it? Love can bear all things, but you would leave him over this if you could... really? Is that true?

    Those two issues above BOTH sound easily survivable for loving people. Do you actually have a MUCH longer list of reasons to leave your life you didn't list yet? Or are you just venting?
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    Sep 17, 2008, 07:08 AM
    Take your chances and movce on...
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    Sep 17, 2008, 07:15 AM
    Hello over:

    I don't know. He's addicted to porn and he's lazy. You're going to tell me that this just started after 23 years?? Nahhh.

    excon
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