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    Sep 9, 2008, 02:02 PM
    When your boyfriend threatens to cheat is he jealous?
    When your boyfriend threatens to cheator threatens with anything he can think of is he jealous?
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    Sep 9, 2008, 02:06 PM
    It is my experience that threats stem from insecurity which can lead to jealousy...

    Neither of which are healthy for a relationship
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    Sep 9, 2008, 02:44 PM
    Yes, when a person wants to cheat, he will do it, no need for an announcement. But that will depend how it was said and how was his treatment to you on the entire relationship.

    If he says like "You are hideous, i'll find someone good looking in time. For now Im just putting up." or "Look at the body, did you see that? Wow! Im gonna find someone like that.", Man, he's serious!

    Your Bf sounds emotionally abusive. He threats with anything? Even my exes were never like that.
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    Sep 9, 2008, 03:09 PM
    Sounds like he's very controlling and insecure. Jealous, yes, potentially abusive, yes, controlling, yes. The question is, how far are you willing to go to appease him before you realize that he has a problem?
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    Sep 9, 2008, 04:53 PM
    It doesn't matter his REASONS for talking crap like that... he gets one warning and then you're gone, right? You do have a spine, right?

    "Threaten me with anything like that again, and I'm gone, no discussion. Remember that."

    "Jealousy can be cute...but you're not being cute. Either get cute jealousy, or keep it to yourself. I'm sorry you're insecure, but it's your problem, not mine. If you're cute about it, maybe I'll listen, but I won't spend any time on mean jealousy. Remember that."
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    Sep 9, 2008, 08:41 PM
    If someone were to tell me they were going to cheat on me, I would find it more of a cry out for attention then a threat.
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    Sep 9, 2008, 08:54 PM
    I read the title of this question and went, "what the..."

    Forgive me if I'm wrong, but a boyfriend is one that makes you feel loved, secure, safe, and the most beautiful person in the world...

    ... a guy who threatens to cheat on you makes you feel unloved, insecure, unsafe, and... quite possibly not the prettiest person in the world.

    I think this guy may be the LAST guy you want as a boyfriend, no?
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    Sep 10, 2008, 06:17 AM
    So why are you still with this creep? The first threat, should have been his last!
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    Sep 10, 2008, 08:08 AM
    I never heard that's if your partner threatens to cheat or do cheat, their jealous. It sounds like he have problems. Problems he needs to workout alone. Leave him. You should have wrote more about the situation but what you wrote tells a lot.
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    Sep 10, 2008, 09:14 AM
    Can't say more than everyone else has said, but I'll back that up. He has issues which either need to be talked about or you need to walk away from them. Remember that you can't help someone fix themselves if they don't want to be fixed...
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