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    goldenlox101 Posts: 6, Reputation: -1
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    Aug 31, 2008, 02:13 PM
    Scared About Sex
    My Husband And I Just Recently Got Married And Neither Of Us Had Ever Had Sex. I Was Looking Forward To My First Time, Him On The Other Hand, Not So Much.

    He Is To Scared To Even See Me With No Clothes On. This Is Really Affecting Our Relationship Because I Am Not Getting Satisfied And That Makes Me Upset And That Makes Him Upset. Please Help.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,327, Reputation: 10855
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    Aug 31, 2008, 03:06 PM
    What are you upset about? You knew that neither of you knew what you were doing, so work together, and teach each other. Instead of getting upset, get a book.

    Buy the book the "Joys of Sex", it's illustrated and you can have loads of fun experimenting, and learning together.
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    TrueFaith Posts: 1,202, Reputation: 313
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    Aug 31, 2008, 03:56 PM
    Well first off congrats on your relationship it is not just based on the physical.

    Most guys feel that they have a lot! More presuer in the sex department due to us being men. We feel we should be the best at it. And it scares us to think that we might be bad. At the one thing we should be good at.

    We have a lot of pride in that. Just give him sometime and make sure he feels safe with it. Start of very slow playing with each other. And go from there

    He is upset because he is scared. You have to make it known that your OK with it. You guys are both new to it. Relax and make each other feel calm. Because the more presuer you put on him. The more it will drive him away and the more problems will come


    Best of luck

    Faith
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    Aug 31, 2008, 04:20 PM
    So don't be naked around each other until you get use to the idea.
    Take it at his pace and at the same time try to make it as interesting as possible.
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    Aug 31, 2008, 06:15 PM
    The best way is to ease each other.

    Play 20 Sexual Questions....

    take it slow and steady~!!

    a bit of kissing and touching.... since your husband is afraid, you should lead him on
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