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fortysomething · Mar 20, 2008, 01:29 PM

My boyfirend heavily insists that I put a strap on cock on a do him from behind and he often puts butt plugs up himself whilst I'm in bed of a night time! He has no male friends, as he finds it difficult to hold a conversation with men, but still in touch with all of his ex-girlfriends ,as he cannot hold a relationship for more than 5 months as soon as girls mention marriage to him he clams up! Is he gay, but hasn't come out in himself yet?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 20, 2008, 01:39 PM

We all have our own secret fantasies. A lot of men like anal stimulation.

Don't accuse yet.

Have you talked to him about this?

fortysomething · Mar 20, 2008, 01:43 PM

Yes I have, he replied he has no desire to be with a man, but gets a man regularly to spank his arse for him. He also say's he doesn't know what love is, and has never loved a female.

margarita_momma · Mar 20, 2008, 01:45 PM

It could be that he likes anal stimulation but is attracted to women and not men. That wouldn't make him gay. Just ask him.

margarita_momma · Mar 20, 2008, 01:47 PM

Originally Posted by fortysomething

Yes I have, he replied he has no desire to be with a man, but gets a man regularly to spank his arse for him. He also say's he doesn't know what love is, and has never loved a female.

Why are you with him if he doesn't love you and doesn't sound like he will ever fall in love with you? If you are disturbed by his actions, leave the guy and find you a nice straight acting man. :)

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 20, 2008, 01:54 PM

So he has no desire to be with a man. That should be the answer to your question unless you think otherwise.

Sorry but I need to get personal with you ;)

While being intimate, does he push you to do him analy? Does he satisfy you? In any way does he act or say sexual comments regarding men? Has he looked at gay porn before? What's his history of sexuality like?

He could never love a woman... hmmm... why are you with him then?

spitvenom · Mar 20, 2008, 01:59 PM

Originally Posted by fortysomething

Yes I have, he replied he has no desire to be with a man, but gets a man regularly to spank his arse for him.

Ok I can understand if he gets a girl to spank him but a GUY!! That's a little suspect to me.

the1unv · Mar 20, 2008, 06:50 PM

The fact that he likes anal play does not make him gay... the fact that he has a hard time talking to men is... lets say... something to look at. I knew a kid in school who was like that. He would go to a party and talk up a storm with the girls... have a guy ask him what size motor is in his truck and he would totally clam up. Turned out he was a bi-sexual. This in NO WAY means your man is. It just brought back a memory.
Mike

Fr_Chuck · Mar 20, 2008, 07:04 PM

Ok, not my opinion of good sex but different things float others boat.
The issue I have is the spanking by someone other than your normal partner ( and perfer the term married partner) But many people have a lot of varied sexual desires, This may have nothing to do with being gay, or he could be bi and not wanting to say it, But does not really sound gay, just off to another direction than many are

blk_beauty · Mar 20, 2008, 07:15 PM

If he's not gay then he's like really weird!! All gay guys have girlfriends and love talking to them and going to the mall with them. Does he like to go shopping with you? I think you should just find you someone else. I n all my life I never heard of a guy that wants to be @#$$%^ up the butt! Some might want you to lick their butt, but not put something(big) in it. Girl look at the facts...

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 21, 2008, 05:41 AM

Originally Posted by blk_beauty

If he's not gay then he's like really wierd!!! All gay guys have girlfriends and love talkin to them and going to the mall with them. Does he like to go shopping with you? I think you should just find you someone else. I n all my life I never heard of a guy that wants to be @#$$%^ up the butt!! Some might want you to lick thier butt, but not put something(big) in it. Girl look at the facts.......

Im sorry but I have to disagree with you on this one.

Just because a guy likes to shop with his girlfriend doesn't mean he is gay. Maybe the boyfriend likes to have a say in what the girl picks out for clothing and such. Maybe he finds enjoyment in choosing her outfits. Maybe the guy is metrosexual.

Though you may have never met a man that likes anal stimulation doesn't mean they aren't out there. You need to broaden your horizans a bit dear. Don't assume that every guy is all about his member. Men have fantasies too.

templelane · Mar 21, 2008, 05:57 AM

Originally Posted by blk_beauty

All gay guys have girlfriends and love talkin to them and going to the mall with them.

No they don't my gay flatmate doesn't like going shopping with female friends.
I have a straight male friend and we love going shopping together and talking about clothes.

Sweeping statements are a dangerous and erronous game.

To the OP:- the same logic can apply really. You don't have to be gay to like that sort of thing and you can be gay and not like it.

smoothy · Mar 21, 2008, 10:22 AM

Originally Posted by fortysomething

My boyfirend heavily insists that i put a strap on cock on a do him from behind and he often puts butt plugs up himself whilst im in bed of a night time! He has no male friends, as he finds it difficult to hold a conversation with men, but still in touch with all of his ex-girlfriends ,as he cannot hold a relationship for more than 5 months as soon as girls mention marriage to him he clams up! Is he gay, but hasn't come out in himself yet?

I don't think he is gay... he clearly has a problem with social skills. There are lots of perfectly straight couples that play with strap-ons. Either because one or the other, or both enjoy it.

Choux · Mar 21, 2008, 05:06 PM

I see where there could be a certain charm in strapping on a penis and doing a guy, but finding pleasure in that, why complain about it? :) You have found a fun sex partner.

Some people really have a thing about their anus and sexual pleasure. In the old days(not now, I don't think), some mothers gave their children enemas... need I say more? And, that is just one example of how the anus gets super-sexualized.

What does it matter if he is "gay" or not, just don't allow any of his fluids into your body because of HIV-Aids; you will never know where he has been.

Enjoy your relationship as it is now... try not to plan ahead in your mind.

the1unv · Mar 22, 2008, 03:02 PM

I agree with beautifulbrunette, some guys like to shop. This does not make him gay... only different. Heck some guys like to get tied up and have hot candle wax dripped on them... like they say... it takes all kinds to make the world go around... who are we to judge anothers pleasure? If you are OK with it... Have Fun!
Mike

Xrayman · Mar 24, 2008, 04:20 PM

Oh my god. He's not gay.

Does it worry you that he likes his anus played with? I think you have the issue rather than him