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katie-edwards123 · Feb 6, 2008, 07:51 AM

So I recently got out of a 2 year relationship with this guy Todd, he was a really great guy and we didn't really have a problem in our relationship but I think me loving him kind of wore off and I wasn't really seeing him often because I am more into hanging out with friends right now. My ex is Pat, we went out for 3 years and we were pretty youg at the time so the relationship was jkind of immature I guess you could say , we were eachothers first loves and we've kept in touch since we broke up too . We also see each other a lot because all his friends are my friends so if there are ever parties going on we usually are both there . We just got back together and everything is pretty perfect but I feel really bad because my Ex Todd has no idea and I'm not sure if I should tell him. I pretty much broke his heart when we broke up and I wanted to be single at the time and then I moved on.. is this all wrong ?

DMBacoustic · Feb 6, 2008, 08:23 AM

Its not wrong, but yea it will suck for Todd. I don't think you should make any effort to tell him. If he asks then you should probably just tell him the truth. He might even think that you broke up with him for Pat, but you can't worry about that. Its your life live it the way you want. If you look on the bright side for Todd maybe this can make him stronger in the long run, and I think if he found out you've moved on it could help him go through the whole process a lot faster knowing its definitely over.

talaniman · Feb 6, 2008, 09:39 AM

You certainly have a lot of relationships, https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...le-159516.html
But I wouldn't worry too much, just be nice to the exes.

EuRa · Feb 6, 2008, 10:15 AM

Ryan, Wayne, Todd, and Pat? 2 years? 3 years? Are you making all this up or maybe changing 'months' to 'years'?

Anyway, you are needy and insecure. Don't talk to Todd, he doesn't need to hear that his heart is crushed more than it already is. You need to learn to love yourself more than you already to do get rid of you dependency on relationships.

katie-edwards123 · Feb 6, 2008, 10:55 AM

Haha okay so the names I put are all made up that's it and Pat and Ryan are the same person I just changed the name and Wayne and Todd are the same person I just changed the name yet again lol here I might as well say # 1 is Pat/Ryan and # 2 is Wayne/Todd so # 1 and I went out from 14 -17 then I was single for a few months then I went out with #2 after from 17 - 19 get it ? Yes okay and I'm not really dependent on relationships cause being single is really fun lol , I just don't stay single long cause I meet nice guys a lot , and I'm into long term relationships I guess cause it happens and # 2 he will find out soon anyway like I live in a small town where everyone knows everything almost. And I'm really not that bad lol

DMBacoustic · Feb 6, 2008, 10:58 AM

How would you know if being single is fun when you've been in relationships for the last 5 years?

katie-edwards123 · Feb 6, 2008, 11:01 AM

True but I was for a few months in between and me and the second guy beroke up for a month before and sure it can be fun I just can't do it long lol

DMBacoustic · Feb 6, 2008, 11:04 AM

If you can't stay single for long, yes that means you're dependent. And this isn't good for yourself, or for your partners in relationships. How can really learn to love someone if you you can't love yourself?

talaniman · Feb 6, 2008, 01:33 PM

I have to agree with the posters, you are dependent, and need a guys attention. Why else would you bring an old question back here, and change the names?? Haven't you noticed in both your posts on this topic, you are always caught between the affections of two guys?? You go back and forth, depending which way your emotional wind is blowing. Stay out of relationships for a while, and find who the real you is, and be happy with her. It may end the confusion for you.