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Dawn_E · Feb 1, 2008, 03:55 PM

Ok so here's the deal. It's a long distance relationship but right now I'm visiting him. My BF likes to play the PS3 a lot by himself, and when he does he barely even says a word. Its also taking up what free time he has. Also... we've dated before and he was my date for this formal dinner. Someone told him that another girl liked him, so he goes and asks her if she wanted to be a 2nd date. He either felt sorry for her or.. something. And we're supposed to go skating, originally just the two of us. Then he comes home saying "Oh yeah, Sarah wants to come skating too." Sarah is his coworker he hangs out with a lot.

On to the point... My main issue right now is that I've decided to become an Officer with the RCMP. Problem with that is... is that my BF has a problem with it. He says its all a gong-show, and that every police officer is stupid. Last night we had an argument about it and basically I get the impression that he doesn't approve, and won't support me. When I told him why I was so upset he said "This again?!". And I'm also afraid that if I do become an officer he'll think I'm stupid and part of the whole "gong-show" business. We haven't really spoken or looked at each other since last night. I still have 2 weeks left here. What should I do? Hes nice in every other way... He even gave me a white gold chain... Should that be part of decision I have to make?

Wondergirl · Feb 1, 2008, 04:03 PM

Let me see. He plays PS3 by himself a lot. He invites other girls to go out with the two of you. He disrespects something you want to do.

Why are you wasting your brain cells on this guy? Because he gave you a white gold chain?

You sound like a sensible person with a great future. Without him.

LIFHgrl823 · Feb 1, 2008, 04:07 PM

I agree with wondergirl;
Go for the officer job. If this boy really wants you, he'd stick with you and support you.
That whitegoldchain is nothing compared to the support and love he's supposed to be giving you.
Good luck with that job :]

nkychic · Feb 1, 2008, 06:59 PM

That white gold chain isn't going to keep you warm at night, be that shoulder you need to cry on, or share in your happiness, so no.. it definitely should not change your decision or even be brought into this decision. Part of your mans role is to support you (a BIG part of his role as your boyfriend). You need to leave him and work on your career. You can't let him control you and that is EXACTLY what he is doing. Go for the career.. there are better guys out there.

<3 Leslie

bizygurl · Feb 1, 2008, 07:39 PM

I think everyone else got it right above. He doesn't support a dream you have, spends all his free time with a video game and has a thing for a girl other than you. I think you know the answer to this one, hon. You can can do better than that guy. Don't let him treat you like that anymore he isn't worth it.

wewed100606 · Feb 1, 2008, 08:06 PM

He is probably insecure. He uses these other girls for the attention when you aren't around. He has a problem with you being in a position of power. He just needs to grow up a little and grow a pair. In due time though in due time. I woudn't blame you if he went through that due time without you as his girl, but it is your decision. Go for the job though... sounds fun!

chrissy32290 · Feb 2, 2008, 06:16 AM

Well then forget him he is obviously just thinkging about himself... and honey just because he got you that necklace doesn't mean anything... if he really liked you then even if he didn't agree with your job he would still support you... it just sounds like a waist of time

terellowens · Feb 2, 2008, 06:52 AM

Like most young guys the Playstation is a key role in passing time and if he would rather be on that than seeing you he clearly doesn't like you (If I am on my Xbox rather than with my Girlfriend all the time then there's an issue)

Goodmorningworld17 · Feb 3, 2008, 04:39 PM

Originally Posted by Dawn_E

Ok so heres the deal. Its a long distance relationship but right now im visiting him. My BF likes to play the PS3 alot by himself, and when he does he barely even says a word. Its also taking up what free time he has. Also... we've dated before and he was my date for this formal dinner. Someone told him that another girl liked him, so he goes and asks her if she wanted to be a 2nd date. He either felt sorry for her or.. something. And we're supposed to go skating, originally just the two of us. Then he comes home saying "Oh yeah, Sarah wants to come skating too." Sarah is his coworker he hangs out with alot.

On to the point... My main issue right now is that ive decided to become an Officer with the RCMP. Problem with that is... is that my BF has a problem with it. He says its all a gong-show, and that every police officer is stupid. Last night we had an argument about it and basically i get the impression that he doesnt approve, and wont support me. When I told him why i was so upset he said "This again?!". And im also afraid that if i do become an officer he'll think im stupid and part of the whole "gong-show" business. We havent really spoken or looked at each other since last night. I still have 2 weeks left here. What should i do? Hes nice in every other way... He even gave me a white gold chain.... Should that be part of decision i have to make?

Well, in my opinion, you becoming a police officer might not be very healthy for the relationship (however I wouldn't let this one man bring you down!). Being a very masculine job he might feel threatened in a way since, I'm assuming, his job is not very manly.

Aside from that, it would seem to me that maybe he and his friends commit misdemeanours often and having such a high-standing and reputable officer of the law around would not be in his best interests. (marijuana, stupid races or things with cars if he's young, that kind of thing).

cromptondot · Feb 3, 2008, 07:01 PM

Go with being a police officer, don't let him bring you down. Give him his white gold chain back, you will be able to buy your own chain and without the baggage.

N0help4u · Feb 3, 2008, 09:10 PM

Follow your dreams and move on without him. He will only hold you back and you will end up miserable.
Too many red flags in two short paragraphs!!
Playing PS3 barely even says a word = ignoring you and taking you for granted

another girl liked him, so he goes and asks her if she wanted to be a 2nd date = equals you'll do but another will too.

He either felt sorry for her or.. something = making excuses for his behavior.

supposed to go skating, originally just the two of us. Then he comes home saying "Oh yeah, Sarah wants to come skating too." = assuming and not considering your input in decisions.

I've decided to become an Officer with the RCMP. Problem with that is... is that my BF has a problem with it. = sign of a controlling guy

He says its all a gong-show, and that every police officer is stupid = belittling YOU

he said "This again?!". = sign he sees you as a whiny nag

afraid that if I do become an officer he'll think I'm stupid and part of the whole "gong-show" business. = you will be walking on eggshells trying to please him and 'make up for it' and
he will only get worse with how he treats you.

Hes nice in every other way = yeah when it comes to he is happy and you don't cross him.

He even gave me a white gold chain... Should that be part of decision I have to make? = NO buy your own necklace and find a guy that will buy you a ring and respect you (and your dreams) for who you are

Leave him in the dust, to somebody that can be content with his ways and rules

pasiria · Feb 4, 2008, 12:51 AM

Police officers protect and serve. They have to think clearly at all times. They have to be very alert. They risk their lives for us. They act as counselors during family violence. They are intelligent and courageous. Do you think that defines stupid? Pretty much, stupid defines him for calling you names. He should be proud of you. Dump him, he deserves it. Just stay away from donuts once you become an officer... just kidding... my respect for officers.