Is anyone good at dealing with anger management?
Well, I guess I'll start by saying that I'm a perfectionist. I like to make plans and stick to them, and have everything in order. I don't see it as something bad, but sometimes when things don't go as planned I get really really angry. You see, my boyfriend is almost the exact opposite of me. He doesn't like to make plans, and just likes to let things happen. When we make plans and he breaks them, I get very mad. It sucks because most of the fights we have are over the phone, which kind of makes things worse. He doesn't see not hanging out with me one day as a big deal, which is totally understandable. It's just that for about 10 minutes(or less) after he breaks the plans I am furious. I don't want to get off the phone with him, but because I'm still mad I want to keep bickering, it escalates the problem to something much more than it really is. I know that if I only give myself even two minutes to relax, I would be perfectly fine. The thing is, I never remember that I can calm down, I just think of how much I hate him for blowing me off. This doesn't happen with only him, it happens when anybody changes plans or breaks them. I just want to know if I am totally crazy and overreacting as it seems sometimes, or if there's a better way I can deal. Can anyone relate or help?
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