Tough
It is often tough for guys and girls to be "friends" often others don't understand and sometimes we ourselves forget where it starts and ends.
The problem at least from the 20 seconds of info, is that you are good (best) friends with someone you tried to date but had nothing in common with.
Strange you can be best friends if you don't have anything in common.
What is it that makes you friends now, what do you now have in common you did not back then.?
But we now have a bigger issue, you now have more closer feelings.
This is the big issue since if you do nothing, don't talk to him, these feelings you have will bother you and will (possibly) effect the friendship anyway, since you will have trouble not wondering and if your desire to follow this grows, you will not be able to just be a friend even if you wanted to.
Now on the other hand if he does not feel this way, and you say something, close friendship may not be as possible anymore either.
But if the real reason was that you did not have much in common, and now you are best friends, it sounds like you are there.
Plus I have always had issues with wording, we went out and then we starting dating, what is dating but just going out.
And the very best relationshps are started by being friends, since getting along and liking each other is the best start of a relationship
I have memories ( if I can degress for a moment to a old man memory) of this wonderful girl Martha, we used to go to plays, music events and everything, her parents just knew that I would be her husband some day. But at the time we were just "friends" and still dated others from time to time.
I really had so much other feelings for her, but I never told her, and still have not unless she is reading this. Well as life does we both found others and I have had a great life and wonderful kids. But still in the still of the night, one always wonder what happened and why as a youth did I not merely tell someone how I felt. In the end as we each found others, our friendship ended and now I don't even know where she is but in case she reads this also, I do wish her well.
Don't let a maybe end up in a memory, you need to follow your heart when you can.
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