[yit]

I fall in love to a coworker that already have boyfriend.initially I think we can be just friend but after our relation grow and we become closer I feel I fall in love with her.I really cannot control myself and told her about my feel.she said she feel that from early.of because I receive the answer I already expected that we only will be good friend.even I know this is the answer from the beginning but it really hurt.after that we agree to be friend as before.but my feel to her cannot just stop immediately because I like her very much.we continue chat online like before.maybe because my feel still there and said or behave someway that cause her feel that I still like her.now she avoiding me.she don want to online at all.I message her no reply.I know its my fault and I told her that I will never think anything again but she still don want to reply me.am I wrong in telling her my true feel?I told her is because I cannot stand anymore to keep the feel.I never do anything or try to influence her to break up with her boyfriend even she told me about their problem.in other way I still advise her not to give up their relation.I feel regret now telling her because I lose a good friend.but why she can be good friend with me before even she already felt I like but now cannot and avoid me?I really don know what to do.:(

[enigmagnetic]

You are hurting yourself by keeping contact with her. You did all you can really. You told her how you feel and now she is avoiding you. Just move on and stay away from her for a while.

[melisskah]

^ yup... dont get involved with your work mates, she has a boyfriend and she's made her feelings clear to you, and doesn't want to be nothing more than friends, but if you continue to 'pm/message her or anything else that you're doing to get her attention, she might just cut you all of all together... so give it a breather and move on.

[yit]

I know we will only be friend forever.I never expect for more.I told her about my feeling is because I can't stand anymore to keep it.I never try anything to get her or break her current relationship.but last few week I still cannot fully accept it and maybe some of my word or behavior make her feel I still like her and scared her.so she start to avoid me.but now I really start to accepted the fact already and just want to be friend with her only.thats why I pm and message her.but is it too late now?can we still be friend?or she will never be friend with me again?why it has to be like this.I really don want to this happen.am I wrong to tell her I like her?