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melissa78 · Oct 26, 2007, 01:03 AM

Ive been dating this guy for a year and a half. He moved in with me a few months ago, and every since we have had no sex life at all. Any advice??

P.S.
I want it and he doesn't.

Sqorp · Oct 26, 2007, 05:47 AM

Have you tried to make it more fun... sexy lingerie, tease him a bit, make him work for it a bit.

statesgirl · Oct 26, 2007, 03:15 PM

Is he really busy a lot?

melissa78 · Oct 26, 2007, 06:27 PM

No he said he's not sexually attracted to me anymore, but he's still in love with me. My appearance has changed very little in the last year. He just keeps saying he doesn't know why. When asked if there was someone else, he said no.

ordinaryguy · Oct 26, 2007, 06:43 PM

Originally Posted by melissa78

He just keeps saying he dosent know why.

I'm guessing this means he's ashamed to tell you why.

kp2171 · Oct 26, 2007, 06:47 PM

Stress, lack of exercise, physical and mental issues, high blood pressure, etc... lots can cause this.

Ultimately he needs to satiate your desires. Sexual compatibility IS a real issue. Scour the threads here by searching for "no sex" or something like that... there are hundreds of women whove written in about this...

Every relationship has ups and downs here. I had a lower drive about 2 years back due to frustration and mild depression. My wife has had lower drive from tiredness or physical issues from time to time... but we are in the same page mentally... we both want to satisfy the other and we both recognise that its got to be give and take.

So... all you can do is all you can do.. talk to him.. try some things.. but I can tell you, my wife puts her sexual satisfaction up there on the list and it isn't to be ignored. Not saying shed leave me, but its tied in to he mental and physical state... it's a sign of commitment and an act of giving.

If he is just lazy cause he's "been there, done that"... you can do better. Yes, there are great guys who don't like to have sex... again, read the threads here. Women whove spent years on a man who was great in other ways, but left them feeling unsatiated, unwanted, and unattractive. Not a way to live.

Poetic_Tragedy89 · Oct 27, 2007, 01:09 PM

I think you should try to talk to your boyfriend about this. This isn't something that just happens, if he loves you and respects you enough he should tell you what's bothering him. Even if he keeps saying "I don't know." Be persistent and try to get it out of him and show general concern about the issue.