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    babicakes Posts: 35, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 6, 2007, 01:42 AM
    Not sure if marriage will last
    Hi, my name is Nela and me and my husband have been married for 3 months and we have hit a hard rode i was pregnant and lost the baby while i was away visiting family in a diff country my husband thinks i was never pregnant but we got that all straghtened out but i still think he has some doubts even though i showed all the sonograms ext.. the main thing is i wayss very mean to him when we first got married i was prego hormones were verywhere and now he has though about everything and he relized what a bad person i was when i came back from the trip after the misscariege i apoligized and everything and i started to change i have been a better person than i ever have been but i feel like he has not given me that chance to show him that im sorry he has been treating me like trash talking to me with no respect he doesnt kiss me with his eyes closed anymore and i have a feeling he loves hes ex gf that he was with three yrs ago and that i have no chance i love this man and i know deep inside he loves me but what can i do to change him? he never wants to talk and he thinks i can't chane
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:46 AM
    Time will tell. Its probably frustrating at this point, but you're changing and showing improvement toward how you treat him. It sound like he's waiting to see if you really have. Just keep being there for him and showing him that you care. Don't concern yourself about if he loves his ex. If you focus on that too much, it could put further strain on your marriage. He married you, not her.

    Good luck to you
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:47 AM
    You all should try counseling. You can't change anyone. A lot of stress comes with losing a baby. You treated him bad and I guess he is doing back to you. Good luck.
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    Aug 12, 2007, 09:20 PM
    Don't concern yourself about changing HIM. Nothing but the shift in your own attitude will change that - so that's the good news. And, although I can understand the fluctuations in moods with hormones regarding your pregnancy... you need to show him that you are a good person/wife. Give him a little time to adjust to your new self with some patience and understanding to his response to the improved 'you' and then time will tell whether you are meant to be together. Best of luck.
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