Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
I'll try and keep this concise. My ex girlfriend and I broke up 3 months ago. We'd taken each other for granted and pushed each other too far for things to work out. After we broke up i realised the mistakes i made. Over the next few months we both upset each other a little more, we stayed in continual contact and met up a few times.
You know the answer. You were not a catch for her anymore! You understand "the mistake", but not the way that makes you understand how to be a catch to her again.
Staying in the contact, gives you the chance to make a plan how to become her catch again.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
She now wants to start dating other people and we've spoken a few times since.
She said it. Ok, and you took it like that. What if she wants to make you jealous ? Girls usually say something, and mean something else.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
Its been pretty flirty when we do though. I feel there are a lot of mixed feelings on both sides, but i've done most of the trying to keep contact going.
Flirting is one way to be the catch and rebuild the spark.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
Recently i've been more standoffish and shes made contact.
Another way to be a catch. Hope you are not doing this to manipulate her. You need to be a catch, but not manipulate her.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
But if shes starting to date other guys is that going to ruin my chances of getting her back? Things are still quite emotional when we've seen each other and i've been as detached as possible lately to try and avoid that.
Instead of being emotional toward her, be flirty. Don't treat her as a friend. Be flirty, and if she doesn't like that, than she has no interests toward you, but as a friend.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
I'm just wondering what my chances are of making this work and what my best approach would be.. I've had the "we should just be friends" thrown at me but since then shes drunk-text me. She keeps saying how miserable she is at the moment.
WHat do you want more? She wants to be taken back. But there is her "pride", and there is you, who doesn't know how to make her want you more and more, in order to "kill" this pride of her and say the magic words. When she is drunk, she doesn't think about her pride anymore.
Originally Posted by
nickfromstrood
I'm not too sure on whether i should try an approach of "fresh start" or "fix what was there before"
Thanks
I would advice, that chapter is gone for both of you. Work on another chapter.