[dunnowhat2do7]

Hi,
I ve been with my boyfriend 4 years this summer. His has a father to my daughter and we do EVERYTHING together like a normal family would. Vacations, family parties, daddy daughter nights, etc. We became friends with a gay guy about a year and a half ago. We were all close and hung out a lot for a while. Eventually my boyfriend just started going there once school started just to have a guy's night once a week or less. But, lately, within the past 6 months the friend has been clingy and trying to leave me out of stuff. He even took my boyfriend on a vacation for a weekend to just get away for a bit. On this trip our 'friend' got all crazy and kicked my boyfriend out of the hotel and he had to take a early flight home because another room would've been too expensive.
After this, I told him my worries and we decided together (mostly him) that we were not going to have anything to do with this friend anymore. We blocked his number and ignored him when he came around. But I was looking for a coupon in my boyfriend email (with his permission) and found out that they had started talking again behind my back. When I've asked my boyfriend if he's heard from him, he says 'not really. He sent some stuff but I ignore it'. (I didn't tell him I saw the email) just the other day I decided to look again. And I saw an email that scared me.
The email was the friend asking if he told me that they've been talking again. And saying sorry for everything and that he just wants to start over with a new beginning, No more messing around. "Just Friends now" and that he promised he wouldn't breath a word of what happened to anyone.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to tear my family apart, but this is really hurting me inside. Help!:confused:

[adviceishere]

At first I thought maybe you were just being paranoid but that email would scare me too! You need to confront your partner face to face and have that email as evidence. Maybe, just maybe there is a perfectly reasonable explanation as to what he means by not telling any one what happened between them...

[Synnen]

When you snoop, you often find out things you wish you hadn't.

You need to tell him what you saw, and ask for an explanation.

Then you need to decide whether you can trust him again.

[amicon]

You have to tell him you snooped-then ask him what's going on.

You have your child to look out for,so the situation needs sorting out.

[talaniman]

Start with being honest about how you came by your info, and hope he is just as honest about his explanation.

I would be scared, and SHOCKED also if I were in your shoes.

[mmresd]

Very shocking email to find... however, you should have not snooping around, especially twice. Confront him about it nicely (he might be more sensitive than you know ;) ) and see what he says, maybe it is just a misunderstanding.

Good Luck,
Javi

[Shadowburn]

Wow. "Just friends", no "messing around anymore", and won't say a word about "what happened" on a getaway weekend and while staying together in the same hotel room. There is no other explanation except for the very obvious.
You probably wish now you haven't snooped, but what's done is done.
Can you continue on with your relationship, knowing what you know now?

[supbra]

Listen, we live in a culture that is VERY excepting of women on women experimenting. Go to any bar/party and you'll see two girls making out and a bunch of guys high 5ing! Girl on girl is in movies, music videos. Ads and reality television. That said, just as enjoyable as female same sex is, SO IS MALE ON MALE! Big shocker?? Catch your breath now. Just as many women who fall into the sexual "gray area" there are almost as many men. But Unfortunately we have to be on the low low about it! Especially if we want to continue a "heterosexual" life. So women get to enjoy the touch of another woman but are welcomed back to straightville with open arms?? Guys get in touch with sex at an age where their counter parts (girls) find the thought of sex gross or funny. Thus leaving many guys to experiment with their buddies and best friends. So truth is we end up having an amazing (and extremely secret) experience. So even after finding the right girl and falling in love, we'll never fully erase our past. Again, you as a female you are allowed to float back and forth. We deserve the same right and acceptance!! Even if your a girl who is not that into other women, you've pretended to be to excite a guy! (admit it) Just know we guys will get ours!! And thanks to this repressive double standard society, we've become experts at doing it with out getting caught! Lmfao! To your man... Just as a woman knows a woman's body a guy will always know how to get you off wayyyyyy better! Do you bro!!