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Mar 3, 2008, 09:33 AM
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Why does my ex still calls me?
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This is an older post so please read the whole thing for background info and current feedback
My Ex Girlfriend And I Broke Up 3 Months Ago. She Broke Up With Me Because I Was Going Out With Myfriends Too much.she Told Me She We Are Not Getting Back Together Anytime Soon And That She Fell Out Of Love For Me. She Cries About The Situation When We Talk About It Or She Gets Very Angry. I Want To Move On But She Still Calls Me Or Text Messages Me Often Which Makes It Harder For Me.what I Want To Know Is What Is Her Intentions? Im Confused On What To Do.. please Help:
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Mar 3, 2008, 09:44 AM
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![Quote](custom/vgo/images/misc/quote_icon.png) Originally Posted by BILLYJADEN
I Want To Move On But She Still Calls Me Or Text Messages Me Often Which Makes It Harder For Me.what I Want To Know Is What Is Her Intentions? Im Confused On What To Do.. please Help:
You just answered your own question that right there gives you your answer. Don't make her uncertainty blind you to what you want. If you really want to move on then stop all contact, if you have to change your number do it. Whatever it takes for you to unconfuse yourself take action. The reality is that I don't think you have healed completely from this relationship and you can't with her lingering in and out of you life.. tell her that you need time to yourself, and ask her to not contact you. Then stop the contact and do what you need to do to be happy.
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Mar 3, 2008, 09:50 AM
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Should I think she still wants something with me? Or is she trying to teach me a lesson? What is her intentions?
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Mar 3, 2008, 10:21 AM
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![Quote](custom/vgo/images/misc/quote_icon.png) Originally Posted by BILLYJADEN
Should i think she still wants something with me? or is she trying to teach me a lesson? what is her intentions?
My concern with this is that she made a decision to break up, I don't really know the details, or if she in fact talked to you before the breakup about spending more time with her and not your friends. If she loved you and seen that their was a problem, she could have communicated this with you and allow you to change or maybe you didn't think it was a big deal no matter what she could have talked to you.
To add salt to the wound she not only broke up with you but SHe also made it clear that she fell out of love with you.. FLAG
SHe made her decision to break it off, she could be realizing this was a mistake, but she can't manipulate the situation and keep holding it against you. It was her ultimate decision to break up. If she feels she made a mistake she should have said something by now, and want to rekindle, but if she is just calling you to keep blaming you for the breakup, then why do you want to talk to her or even get back with her.. You are not even together and she calls you and get angry, and cry for her decision.. blaiming you when she stated she doesn't love you. SO what are you holding on to?
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Mar 3, 2008, 10:26 AM
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Confused on what to do?
Ive told her that I'm a changed man but she doesn't believe me. She tells me she is happy being by herself.Ever since we broke up we have kept in touch. We talk almost everyday. She text message me and calls me to see how I'm doing. Im moving on. But I want to know what her true intentions really are by her calling me/texing me all the time?
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Mar 3, 2008, 10:41 AM
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Well to tell you more about the situation. She has taken me back 2 times for the same thing. I have to admit I do love her and I want to work things out slowly but she doesn't want to give me another chance. Ive told her to stop calling me or text messaging me to make things easier for me. I just think its ridiculous how a person doesn't want anything with anyone but yet still wants to stay in touch.
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Mar 3, 2008, 11:00 AM
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![Quote](custom/vgo/images/misc/quote_icon.png) Originally Posted by BILLYJADEN
Well to tell you more about the situation. She has taken me back 2 times for the same thing. I have to admit i do love her and i want to work things out slowly but she doesnt want to give me another chance. Ive told her to stop calling me or text messaging me to make things easier for me. I just think its ridiculous how a person doesnt want anything with anyone but yet still wants to stay in touch.
Easy, because they are hurt, she is hurt by you not choosing her over your friends, but she made a decision to end it therefore she must live with her decision. You on the other hand obviously was not willing to change, and therefore have to accept the consequences.. and because You guys have already been in and out of the relationship I think its best that contact for now be obsolete.. Until you can fully heal... You need to find out what it is that you want and what makes you happy. Because if you needed to be with your friends all the time, that means their could have been a void in your relationship.. some incompleteness because if you really want someone nothing will keep you away.. I mean nothing... Can their be friendship? Perhaps it can be later in life.. not right now its too soon after the breakup to try at friendship.. You need to heal first and get yourself together emotionally and mentally.. Otherwise you will keep going back and forth breaking up and making up, and eventually it will become sour, and can even lead to never being friends.. If you want friendship you have to let go.. who knows maybe when you both mature a little later you can reestablish a friendship, or maybe not.. The bottom line is let go, no contact is strongly advised...
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Mar 3, 2008, 11:17 AM
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Thank you so much. I agree.
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Mar 3, 2008, 11:27 AM
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How much time did you spend with her/your friends?
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Mar 3, 2008, 11:54 AM
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Well of course she's happy being single. She still gets to talk to you every day. This is what we call "having her cake and eating it too". Don't let her have it both ways. No relationship No Contact. Stop responding to her and calling her. Do this at least 2 weeks and see if she's still contacting you. If she is, politely tell her that she wanted a break up, what else is there to talk about. In the mean time, go out and have some fun and get your mind off her.
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Mar 3, 2008, 12:55 PM
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Well I Rarely Went Out With My Friends But In Her Mind She Thought I Went Out Too Much. She Is Very Insecure And Unfortunately She Has A Trusting Issue. She Is Very Jealous. When She Calls Me I Tend To Be Too Pushy On Asking Her When We Are Getting Back And Gets Angry About My Questions. By Me Accepting Her Decision I Just Don't Get Why She Would Call Me So Often Supposely To See How Im Doing? She Text Me Senceless Text Messages About What's Going On With Her Which Leaves Me In Doudt If She Wants Something With Me Or Is She's Done With Me For Good. Or Probably She Just Wants To Make Me Misserable.
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Mar 3, 2008, 12:59 PM
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Thank You For Your Answer. Do U Think She Is Sure She Made The Right Decision.
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Mar 3, 2008, 01:03 PM
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![Quote](custom/vgo/images/misc/quote_icon.png) Originally Posted by BILLYJADEN
Well I Rarely Went Out With My Friends But In Her Mind She Thought I Went Out Too Much. She Is Very Insecure And Unfortunately She Has A Trusting Issue. She Is Very Jealous. When She Calls Me I Tend To Be Too Pushy On Asking Her When We Are Getting Back And Gets Angry About My Questions. By Me Accepting Her Decision I Just Dont Get Why She Would Call Me So Often Supposely To See How Im Doing? She Text Me Senceless Text Messages About Whats Going On With Her Which Leaves Me In Doudt If She Wants Something With Me Or Is Shes Done With Me For Good. Or Probably She Just Wants To Make Me Misserable.
Well her contacting you could be her jealously, she keeps in contact to know what you are doing.. perhaps this can also be a reason... now that you mention she is insecure and jealous. I suggest you just stop contact, there is no need to keep torturing yourself...
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Mar 3, 2008, 01:09 PM
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That's True.I Agree With You.
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Mar 3, 2008, 02:48 PM
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Bill my friend, either you are naïve, or didn't really read, what the poster said. She has no reason to be exclusuve with you, as she still has you anytime she wants, and is still free to do whatever she wants, and when ever she wants, because you will let her. Forget talking to her, as she did dump you, so stop kissing her butt ,and get a life.
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Mar 4, 2008, 07:08 AM
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Thank You. Im Going To Stop Thinking On What To Offer This Person Adn Safe It For The Every Special One That Comes In My Life. Givng Her Too Much Importance Is What Is Keeping Her With This Game. Thank You So Much For Your Straight Forward Answer.
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Mar 4, 2008, 07:27 AM
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There you go, just love yourself, and someone who deserves you, will want to share what you have, and that's special. Good luck, I like your attitude.
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Mar 4, 2008, 07:37 AM
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I think this is more accurately described as: "She is having your heart and eating it, too."
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Mar 4, 2008, 07:51 AM
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Thank You...
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Mar 4, 2008, 08:32 AM
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Bily, she split with you because you spent too much time going out with YOUR mates and not giving her enough attention. Maybe she is trying to see if you really have changed or not. If you have then show her how much you have changed and if you get back together then learn from your mistake
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