Hi,

I need some advice about my father. He is 63 and had a stroke last year. Since then he has ben in a care home. Last week he was removed from the care home as the council would no longer pay his care home fees (he is on statutory sickpay of £70 a week, they took £60 of this as top up to his home fees) He was sent back home. I live with my parents, with my two children as we were all due to be moving into a suitable house for my father BEFORE he was sent home. He has carers four times a day and nurses twice a day.Before coming home we were in a meeting with social services who said they were sending him back, against the occupational therapists advice (as the house is unsuitable) and that he was able to walk with a stick, and take care of his own toilet needs etc, however upon getting him home he couldnt even stand unaided, and has to wear nappies day and night. He spent a couple of weeks, six weeks ago, in a rehab home and uopn leaving was very mobile and able to take care of his own personal needs, and yet he has lost all of these. We want him put back in the rehab home to get his mobility back, but the rehab home wont take him back and social services have pretty much washed their hands of him. We cant afford the rehab home ourselves. What can we do? Do we have to legally keep him here where he is not able to even leave the house and has to live in nappies because of the unsuitabilty if the place? We are desperatey trying to find another house to move into but he cant be left alone so that is making things hard. My mum, who is almost 60 herself, is exhausted as she is running around after him all day, up and down the stairs, and he keeps us all up all night complaining that his legs hurt but we cant even get a dr out! Paramedics wotn take him anywhere as he is upstairs, we cant even get him to his hospital appointments now. What can we do?
We are in the UK by the way.