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I am sorry that you have to go through this difficult situation at a time like this. Since the trust in the relationship has been violated. It cannot be repaired. You must be strong and move on...

All I can say about this issue is that you have to live and learn. You sound like you want to explore other relationships before settling down. At the same time, you don't want to risk losing...

Wow that is pretty straight forward. He said no already, so just let him be. It is time for you to heal.

Well it is easier for me to say this since I look at it from a third person perspective. If she lied to you, the relationship is NOT healthy. I would say no, but it is easier said than done.

Wow amy! Congratulation. Did you do no contact from the 1st of the year until now? Give us an update of your experience to help out those who are just going through the breakup

Easy - RUN!

Tell the father. Then you should discuss it!

Well, just move on and forget her is very hard to do. It's easier said than done. I know I am guilty of that. I think it, but I have trouble doing it myself. But it's the only way that things...

Just think of the worse. Think that she has somebody else already and certainly she has moved on because she risked losing you. I am sorry for your loss, but you need to heal now.

Yes I have the same fear too for going NC, that she will lean on somebody else for emotional support and soon would forget me

Very good advice here. Listen to everybody here.

Back to NC

Wow, I want to be in your position. Nice job

I sense some red flags there. Her attitude that she puts herself first over you means that she started to DISRESPECT you. Before, she was putting you first because she had respect for you and she...

Faithlessfornow, I feel for you and I am sorry of your father's death. Please hang in there. It hurts but you must face it.

But if you go as a friend, then each should pay for their own portion?

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Thank you for the response guys. I kind of feel lonely and I just want to go out and eat. Naturally I thought of my ex, but I think I rather take a friend out vs an EX since I think a friend would...

Thank you, this reinforces what others said.

Wow, thanks for the advice

I like the "more bang for your buck" reference thing. It's just funny. Thanks guys. I think the best thing for me to do is to not treat her out.

When a girl break up with you, any attempts to treat her out to dinner, movie, etc... to show that you are nice and stuff; are they wasted? Would this be a sign that you are needy and desperate? ...

You know, people keep saying this. But I still am confused on this point. If somebody doesn't give another the space, it will push the girl further away. What is the logic behind this?

What if the poster doesn't give her the space and still tries to hang on to the girl? What is bad about this?

You should either

1. End it with your best friend and make a commitment to your husband and kids again. It will be tough, temptation and that new exploration with your best friend must feel...

This is definitely an emotional affair and can only lead to problem with your own marriage. Best thing to do is to focus on your husband or it will become a betrayal of your marriage and it will...

You are on the right track there. It is up to you to decide. Do you feel it is worth it to stick together during this hard time for him? If you don't feel the effort is worth it, then maybe your...

She has another person in mind. I went through this and it's similar. She has somebody she wants to experience dating with and she is not sure if sticking with you is a good idea

Yes that is one option. Beside a restraining order, would the ex resent you if you don't give them the space?

I keep reading this forum and whenever I hear that an EX dumps someone and wants space, the advice to the dumpee has always been give her/him the space.

Why is giving the EX who wants space a...

In your post, you said "I broke up with my GF". So the story changes?

Bad idea. After 15 years together, I think the love and spark is totally gone. Break off with him and see how you feel being single

Well, you broke it off with her and you chose to move on. It's not like she broke it off with you. So why do you even need ego stroking to reject her when and if she asks to get back to you? It...

What do you mean by "her experimentations"? Are she dating? Having sexual relationships with different people?

It sounds like the OP needs some space to be alone and find what she wants in life. Why don't you ask him for some space and see if you miss him. If not, then you know it was not to be, else you...

Vicky, be very careful. I figured with your attitude, you will seem needy to him. It also sucks that the table have turned, but stay strong. It will benefit you in the end.

Well I guess there was a sign on the wall, but boy if he didn't see a future with you, what was he doing with you for the past 1.5 years? That is just leading the person on and it is wrong. Amy,...

I agreed with the original poster that it hurts like hell when a girl said "I want to be single". All I can say to the OP is to hang in there.

As to reply to spitvenom, for confronting her at...

Yes I was definitely thinking the same. I guess my thought to confront them at the BAR was to prove that "Hey, you lied to me, you guys are not just friends, you are dating!". And this drive to do...

This will be hard for you to hear, but you need to stop with the insecurity. I believed you love him more than he loved you and you are thinking to yourself he is a better catch for you than you are...

Well, my EX also said "I want to be single". We have been broken up for 3 months now and I still can't let her go. She started seeing this guy and they are "just friend", she said. They would go...

She misses you, but don't want to be with you. If you are OK with NOT getting together and just want to be friend, then it is OK. ELSE, I recommend you to stay away and not respond.

Careful, she is slowly stepping over you and you shouldn't let that happen

Thread should be locked

Ignore it if you want to heal. He is testing the water and keep you around as a friend and back up. If he wants to go out with you again, he would have contacted you more. I say stay away and heal...

Wait, did he break up with you or you broke up with him?

As a guy, I might be afraid to get too serious because I don't want to drive the girl away

Seriously, let the girl fight to win you. Else it will just be a one way relationship

Is this even a serious post? Or is this a trolling post? I think the moderator should lock this post and delete it.

Wait, I don't buy this advice. He must act tough and stay his ground. He should not go back and beg to be with her. This is the wrong move.