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Thank you so much for your replies. It really helps a lot.

At this point I'm hoping that the hot feeling will become more prevalent than the cold feeling. This seems to be the case.

Talaniman,...

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When I came home last night it was like there was no crisis at all. We talked and she said that she made the choice to forget the other guy and that she wanted to stay with me. It was like...

I am with my girlfriend almost 2 years. We have been living together over a year. A few months ago we have purchased land together and were making plans to build a house. We were also trying to have...

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After afew days of silence, she texts me that "she has a bad feeling" ever since she left. When asked if she want to end the relationship, she answers (by text): "I just need some space...I...

I will leave her alone for a few days and she how she reacts (she working abroad for 10 days now). I find this extremely hard though

I must say that has a very very busy life. She works long and hard and has several time-consuming hobbies.
It's not that she's acting distant, it's just that I'm always the one to initiate contact...

Hi,
I am seeing my girlfriend for about 2 months now. One year ago we were also dating for a short period after. Back then I ended the affair.
The problem now is that I always have to initiate...

I don't know what to do anymore...
I feel genuinely in love with this girl although I realize that this is partly fueled by jealousy (dating one of my friends).

It has taken me up completely...

@ talaniman: since I'm doing the NC thing, I don't know. I don't even know if they ever were together. I just know they went on a few dates.

If what comes around goes around, I should not deserve...

So this girl sent me a message yesterday night (somewhat expected) to wish my goodnight etc. I'm finding it very hard to follow NC. I keep wondering whether it is a guilt message, or maybe she just...

I agree with Talaniman, of course.

However, I do not think you should blindly follow what some people on the internet tell you to do.

But if we feel insecure, needy, panicky, etc as a result...

He's a jerk, he's playing with your feelings. Go No contact, you will notice how he will want to initiate contact more often then

First of all, thanks for all your comments, I already helps just to know somebody cares.
I agree with all your advice, which is simple: move on and go forward. I also do realize that my craving for...

Hi,
Ithis is my situation: One year ago I had a relationship with a girl that lasted for a few months. It should be noted that this girl is of exceptional beauty and she constantly is approached by...

I met this girl in a bar last week and I'm going on a date with her this week. I barely know her. It's been a year ago now since my ex girlfriend dumped me and I took the break up real hard. I guess...

I hate to tell you this but I've read and experienced situations very similar to yours. I'd say there's another guy in the game. I know it's hard to even try to believe this but I think you should be...

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Many of us have gone through what you're going through. Although I must say that your story is the most appaling I have heard here.

The answer is: yes, you are a fool if you are still attempting...

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I think a big part of it is guilt. On the other had she also told me that she had thought about me a lot. That the NC wasn't easy for her as well because I was a big part of her life. She said she...

I gave her an example but she just kept on denying it. Although when I saw her expression I knew that she felt guilty. I can understand the persistent denial though -you can't just lie to someone's...

I humbly disagree. I didn't think love was a predictable thing also. Learning from the experiences with my ex and from other people's stories, I have changed my mind. Love is a chemical reaction in...

Hi. I made some previous posts before about my girlfriend leaving me for her ex. Very heartbreaking... if you are interested: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/search.php?searchid=1086228

I was at a...

Nohitter, you are trying to tell us that you are over her. That you don't want her back...
I might be wrong, but -based on the things you said- it sounds to me that you're not over her at all. If...

I'm sorry for you dude, but you just have to let go now. It is not easy (I speak from experience), but you must, for your own sake. Let it go, you are only irritating her, and making it much worse...

She didn't cheat on me technically -as far as I know. She had contact with this guy behind my back; she denied it when I asked if she had feelings for someone else.


I don't blame myself at all....

Hi. Some people know my story. It is a story about a heartbreaking break-up, combined with lying, deceit, false hope etc. If you are interested you can read my previous posts. It has been 3 months...

I'm thinking the same thing you are. My ex contacted me recently to "clarify" things. Everybody keeps telling me not to respond and in the end they're probably right. However... there is still a...

You will only gzt over it by giving it time and allowing yourself to grieve and wallow in self-pity for a while

You're not really flattering yourself are you :)

It doesn't feel like I'm in charge though, and it certainly doesn't feel good.

I thought about this for a very very long time, and I talked about it with many people and I still am mixed up about the whole thing. I haven't replied so far. I know I am holding on to false hope. I...

You can't be friends while you are still having strong feelings for her. Face it, the only reason you want to meet with her is to see if anything has changed. It is normal, but unhealthy. I am in the...

I'm in the same place as you, my ex also wants to "talk" to me all of a sudden of 3 months of NC. I don't know if it's a good idea to start having contact again but I guess it sure give you a lot of...

It hurts to not respond while it would be unwise to respond. This is a lose-lose situation. If I don't respond then I don't have to expect anything else from her. The last 2 months I have essentially...

I still don't know what I'm going to do. I feel like talking to her, but not about the situation with the jerk. I'd rather feel like meeting up, having dinner or something and try to behave like...

Right on


I have no closure, otherwise I wouldn't be on this site asking for advice. All I know is via somebody else. I would like to hear it from her. The complete truth, although I realize she...

I was thinking about waiting a few days (a week maybe) and then sending something like "your email has been sent a few months too late".

A part of me does still want her back, but I have brains...

Hi,
Some of you already know my story. To summarize: my girlfriend of 1.5 yr broke up with me about 2.5 months ago for reasons she could not really explain. After a while it became clear to me...

If she plays games just tell her to stop playing games. If she continues, ignore her.

The problem is that you still have some hope, very little; but it is still there. You know my situation: my ex is already involved with somebody else. To know that, destroys all hope. You don't know...

Think of your past relationship as a great experience instead of wasted time. I don't think you can ever "get over" a break-up after 5 years especially not if it wasn't your decision to break-up. All...

I think I am getting on the right track. Whenever I think of this situation I just say to myself: "whatever". She can do as she pleases. If this is her way to say goodbye then let it be.
It is a lot...

She's turning 20 in 2 weeks, I have just gotten to the blessed age of 23. She didn't send anything on my birthday, which was pretty painful

Yes. I a way I'm relieved to have discovered her true face. I'm feeling a better person than her. In another way I'm sorry that this is the truth, that good things have to come to an end, especially...

Of course she's embarrassed of it, not only is this guy the prototype of a jerk, he was also involved with one of her best friends. I figure they were trying to keep it a secret for not "hurting"...

You're right. New year's eve was a mistake.
The last few months I have learned a lesson that I will remember for the rest of my life

That's the irony :) It isn't a new guy. It is her former ex who never got over her and practically stalked her the first months we were together. It's a joke, that's what it is, a cruel joke.

Thank you for your excellent advice nohitter and wildcat. It really really helped me a lot. I just found out from my friends that she was kissing with this jerk the same night when I was out for a...

I had a great time that evening, until she walked in (fortunately pretty late). I admit that I was feeling uptight and that I have put way too much importance on seeing her. The thing is though, when...

I will spare you the drama. Thank god there are still places like this to talk about your problems