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Simple!If I wait for the"perfect"guy I will be old and grizzled.
I also have to admit that I hate pseudo-psychological relationship talk.It often makes a mountain out of a mole hill.
I think I will...

Isn't that the way to drive a guy away?What guy doesn't get the heebeeyeebees when you say:we got to talk...
Add to that that it is my impression that most guys don't even know what they feel or...

Well,maybe men are not so easy to figure out after all.I did not talk to him for several days.When I was at the gym,I just did my thing and eventually,he walked right up to me as I was jogging past.I...

I did:I asked"was it something I did??"and he said"No"and that was it.When I approach him he looks me in the eyes,not away and seems attentive,but distant.I have to say that I have watched him and he...

I did:I asked"was it something I did??"and he said"No"and that was it.When I approach him he looks me in the eyes,not away and seems attentive,but distant.I have to say that I have watched him and he...

Well,the gym is not the right place and that's the only place I see him... I don't want to be a phone stalker and generally only call guys if it's important...

Ahem,I can't remember putting up a pic of myself here...
Anyway,he didn't seem disappointed,quite the opposite...
And we have known each other since at least a year so it's not like I hurried...

Sooo,this guy at the gym kept looking at me for months.Finally he asked me about his turtles(I am a specialist for reptiles(and he came to my house and I helped him with his turtles and he hooked up...

Jaxie,you have it the wrong way around:He abuses drugs because he is an abuser.If he would get off the drugs,he might be less abusive but then again,he might be more.Drugs don't make somebody abusive...

I am not going to talk to him about it.He denies it and I want him out of my life.He is messing with several women and now has a hunting license and guns.As long as he stays 800 miles away with it...

I have been living with excuses and gaslighting for the last years,I am reading and educating myself about abuse and it is a real eye-opener.I used to take on all his stuff and now I can heal.Him...

I will do to the court and ask for a total financial separation as he is not able to take care of money and I don't want that on my credit records.I am aware of addiction.I know that some people just...

Yes,there are but he is running away to another city.His brother confirmed my suspicions.I talked to him yesterday.

He is on his way to New Mexico and seems more together but I will see how it goes.I did tell him about my suspicions which he of course denied.Yes,I will be better off.I feel better already!Even...

I am looking for one in my area but a lady from the police called me who follows up on abuse reports and she was very helpful.I have friends,thoug,who are helping me.

I agree but since I called the police when he became violent he has moved out.I asked his friends to get him professional help but they don't see the problem.He is moving to another city altogether.I...

I read up on meth addiction and it fits him to the T.All the symptoms match!It is pityfull to watch,really...

He never has money although he has a steady job.I should also mention that several people have told me about the drastic change in his personality to erratic and unpredictable.

Here are the symptoms
Erratic behavior,wears sun-glasses all the time-even indoors,he seems to have aged decades,hair long and unkempt,teeth discolored,weightloss of fifty pounds or more in a few...

My opinion is that porno is degrading and just seen from the point of view of men.There are many good books and e-books out there to learn more about sexuality and how to spice things up.I would find...

Some of you have read my other postings about the abusive marriage I have been in.On the 29 of January,he came home late at night and just said that he wanted me gone(his words)and proceeded to...

Some of you have read my other postings about the abusive marriage I have been in.On the 29 of January,he came home late at night and just said that he wanted me gone(his words)and proceeded to...

I cannot as I cannot legally work until I have a work permit and SSN and he knows that.He has left and wants to stay at somebody else's place.A friend who works in the court will provide me with...

As you can see by the postings in the "marriage"section my husband is abusive and wants to throw me out.We are both on the lease and because of my legal status I cannot work legally which he is aware...

I'm from Germany and live in Los Angeles now.For years he stalled my paperwork knowing that without it I am dependent on him.There is a provision that I could file as an abused spouse but that is...

I cannot leave as I cannot work or move to another place.Until my legal status is adjusted and I am a resident I cannot do anything.If I could I would have been gone a long time ago.

So after months of hardly talking to me at all he comes home last night and tells me that he wants me gone right now and goes off on a rant and gets more and more mad.I just sat there and tried to...

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He reason someone cheats is because they're not getting everything they want in a relationship. Whether its passion, sex, communication or more frequent trips to the movies, there is something...

I tried to talk to him and he also paints his old girl friend in black.So funny as he accuses me of doing that.

I had an interesting talk to an old friend of his and learned about a girlfriend he had many years ago where the same thing happened:first big love and then anger,violence and throwing of...

I have to wait until I get the papers from immigration.I cannot make any decision until then.As it is based on being married to him,I need his cooperation but then I can look for a job and make my...

Because I could not work!I am German and he is American.My status had not been adjusted as I had no money for the fees and the paralegal and my husband didn't give me the money but complained that I...

No,I filed for adjustment of status so I can work.

I am asking because this has happened many times before,actually,ever since we were together.He would go to the bars after work without telling me where he is going or when he is coming back but...

I finally was able to file.I hope he will 'perform' good on the time of the interview.I hope I will get my papers soon.The paralegal said that it should not take long.

I asked him if he wanted divorce and he tried to change the subject but I kept on asking and finally he said that he doesn't know.

It is not possible to have a reasonable talk about our relationship.he accuses me of painting him black and that he cannot do anything right in my eyes.So far,he has not expressed remorse about the...

He complains that I am only nit-picking...

Am I wrong to be upset when my husband comes home at seven in the morning after calling the night before and saying that he just is going for something to eat with friends and there had been a...

Raising kids is demanding.I have raised two myself and it can be exhausting.Also,it is a big turn-off when a woman feels she has to perform sex as a service.Just gently seduce her and see if she is...

I am in a similar situation.My husband is s.. ing around,too.After the first hurt I have to tell you:
Number one-it is not your fault.My husband put the guilt trip on me,too,and I took it but now I...

He stays within the plan/free minutes but the bill is still different by more than 25 dollar every month and when I called they could not tell me why,either.

My husband has a cell phone that has free minutes and he seems to stay within that limit but the bills are different for each month.Is it possible to get an itemized bill for everything,including the...

No,you are not a citizen until you filed for it and paid huge fees.But I am nearly there but it will take months until I get my work permit.It is a real nail biter.

Well,I did find out that he is e-mailing her.We had a talk and I told him that I do not tolerate his contact to her in any way.I have never been a jealous person and he has many contacts to tons of...

Yes,as you can read in my former posting I don't have my residency here yet and so cannot work and support myself.He knows this but finally with the help of friends and some money for petsitting I am...

I give you an example:I had found out and confronted both of them end of March.She was supposed to be my friend,too.All hell broke loose and he promised to change.I really tried my best to listen and...

Thank you!I do feel that he is still in contact with her,too as he keeps his e-mail and other communications a secret and is often away at night and does not really explain where he was.I found a...

Propably!But as you can see by my earlier posting,I am stuck here for now.But my question is more about whether my demands are exaggerated or within normal limits.

He only wants to control you by threatening to take the kids.Contact a women's abuse hotline in your area.They will help you and advise you on your next steps to take.