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Thanks destiny09...


I appreciate it. :)

Update...

So I went out last night, had a great time... was having a great time... then she texted me: "Please be careful when tonight"

She knew I was going out because I always do...

Very interesting... way of viewing things thanks a lot people..!

Ill keep u posted...

I DO KNOW THAT SHE ALWAYS has to be "the one in control" all the time... and she even admitted that to...

Yeah... thats funny because in her email about the Break up... or Time off... she said at the end... of it that she NEEDS to do this... for HERSELF.! How about that...

Yeah, I won't text her...

I just don't know or understand how this woman can be so cruel to me... someone whom she's loved for 5 years... no self pity.. just confounded... or how I LET her do this... for all these years...

talaniman...

You see, THAT is what I suspected she was up to but unsure about it... because I couldn't tell if she was just you know, borderline personality... and maybe had some mental...

OK destiny09... just wanted clarification...

I haven't heard anyhing from her so far... ill keep you all posted... meanwhile... im just talking to some new friends... maybe going to go out...

Destiny...

She doesn't want to let you go because she knows you're a good man and doesn't want anyone else to have you.

If this is true... then why is doesn't she want me? It doesn't make...

destiny..Her problem is not wanting to let you go but not wanting you either and your letting her keep you hanging on!!!

Why would she not let me go but not want me either??

Anyone?

I've...

That's fine... I just don't understand what her deal is? Is she Borderline Personality? Plain crazy? I not letting her do anything now...

After all this, I just want to know what her problem...

Yeah... the smart move would let it be. No I haven't lost my brain... I was just asking what the heck is she thinking?

What is wrong with this woman?

That's what I thought too... im like... honey... its over... YOU broke it off. What the heck? Why are you contacting me? Leave me alone. Its like she's trying to ease her guilt of breaking off...

OK everyone... the update...

She wrote me a long email... saying that it was all my fault and that she needs to break it off with me for "herself" respect and that she needs to do things for...

Going to head to the gym... get in shape. :)

Thanks everyone for your help...

:) its Monday and I feel pretty good.

Yeah... ok... no biggie... I mean I love my clothes and all about 300 dollars worth... but, I can get new ones... I don't NEED them that much everyone... im just wondering if she's going to say...

I do have some clothes over at her place that id like to get though... fyi... how do I handle that?

OK

Yeah, I find it pretty damn disgusting too everyone...

I'm not going to respond to her after how she's treated me... not going to allow her to hurt me again and again... so... im just going N/C....

Well hi everyone... I read your great advice... last night... didnt do a thing today... but hang out with some friends... back at home for the night. I don't feel like getting drunk or anything......

Thanks vanheart...

Hi everyone...

It's a Friday night... home alone because I don't want to go out... im just in a real PIS$ off mood right now. Have been all day...

I want to call it a night but I'm just very...

Thanks vanheart... can't sleep...

Just wondering "WHY"? All this had to happen again and again... u know? Is it me or is it that she's diagnosed depressed and not her fault... its hard to know...

MOTHERF**&R...

IS THERE NO END TO WHAT THIS WOMAN CAN DO TO ME?!

I'm on Facebook and she's obviously a friend... I don't want to delete her because I don't want to seem that she has gotten to...

Yeah...

I'm looking at her ACTIONS towards me... not her words... thanks for the insight.

Yeah...

I'm looking at her ACTIONS towards me... not her words... thanks for the insight.

You know, in one of our most recent fights... I admit I was drunk and I asked her : "why do you hate me so much?" what did I do that you treat me like this...

The next day she said that she...

Thanks justlaw and vanheart...

I'm going to sleep on all of what you said...

One question justlaw:

How do you "see" the hurt behind my words? That is sooo dead on. Is it that obvious everyone? Sheesh.

Thank you justlaw for your thoughtful words...

Yeah, your dead on about how I feel... I really do seem to want to think and believe that she will see how much she will really miss me when I'm...

Wow... thanks quest_ioner... interesting perspective coming from a woman... I really appreicate it... im going to remain N/C.

And well, just go from there. I showed her that I DO have a pair......

Thanks for your comment destiny09...

Your post has made me think.

Thanks mdoli... for your input.

The good outweighs the bad in those fleeting moments of intimacy... when she is at her best, being herself and loving me for who I am and what we are.

The bad...

Well its not so much that I'm being a doormat... as it is the fact that she claims that I am the one who is causing the fights and arguments because she wants to go out and have "fun" and I don't. ...

Well that's the thing...

Our arguments are stupid. Here's an example of the latest:

We had a great Saturday all day long... then we were to have a romantic evening when she gets a text from...

Thank you destiny09,

You know people... I have often wondered during our breakups if she has been seeing other people... she told me no and that "im the only one" etc... but I'm not sure if I...

Although I don't think you're right about myself respect, I do want to thank you for your comments... emo.

It sheds a new perspective on things for me. And for all the guys that have commented on...

And also... im wondering if my "GF"... has a "personality disorder" and if so, does this condition FALL into the regular relationship mode? Does this mitigate the situation? Or am I just...

What very thoughtful comments from everyone. Thank you for your insight. Yes, in the end, I realize that it is MY choice as to whether I want to go back or have her back in my life or not. Even if...

But it's a strange thing... its like I'm in Vegas and she is my slot machine... I put up with her crap HOPING that the next pull will make me a winner. And the problem is, is that she does give me...

Well I don't want to spend ANY more time on any drama. I'm sick and tired of the drama.

I told her that last week and said that I don't want to argue with her anymore.

If and when she's ready...

Hi everyone...

An update:

Well, I guess I'm a masochist because I have been taking her shi* on and off now for a month.

She goes from being the sweetest woman on earth back to her crazy...

The latest:::

I checked into my Facebook account and she writes:

"i am trying to figure out where to go from here"...

How about that... SHE is the victim... sheesh.

An update everyone...

I just read her emails and listened to the voicemail...

Well, when I left her apt... it turns out that she apologized for saying that about her old boyfriend and took it...

Yes I we were on and off before my posting...

We just broke up nohelp4u

I never thought of that! Ill have to remember that for my future relationships.

The funny thing is that by standing up to the drama... do you think that this is going to make her WANT me even...

Its funny chuff...

Whenever we were really doing great... shed screw it up and break up. I once told her that its almost that she WANTS to sabatoge the relationship.

Very strange... never...

Thanks for that man... it helps me.

Yeah, it was very cruel. I'll try to keep my head up! :)

Thanks chuff but how do I deal with what she told me:?

chuff... I do have a confession...

I have been thinking all day today what she told me last night:

"i was over at my old boyfriends...