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Most ex's loooooove to keep tabs on what we're up to in life. It's pure curiosity, plain and simple. I've had ex's from over 10 years ago contact me out of the blue... it's like they have this sixth...

Often we use our past experiences as a gauge to how we view things in our daily lives now. You've admitted that you've had trust issues with an ex on this matter and I have a feeling that has a lot...

Good job :)

The advice given here is to help people move on the most quick and drama-free as possible. I've heard of those that do send that letter end up in another cycle of drama as they start...

The more we try to control someone, the more they will push away and be defiant. If this continues, you'll most likely lose her for sure because she'll start seeing (if she isn't already) you as a...

Emotional blackmail indeed... as much as we might care about them, there's one thing I keep in mind when I hear stuff like this.

How dare they put the burden of their life and happiness on ME?
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People not only what they can't have but also what's not good for them! Love can do some crazy things to us, including make us overlook things which would normally be unacceptable to us.

Remember,...

I completely understand... it seems like someone went into their head overnight and turned off a light switch somewhere. The truth is though they've probably been thinking of this for quite some time...

This is way, way too early to be jumping into a new relationship with you already - especially if you see her clearly going through stages of grief.

You asked how you can help her overcome her...

Not knowing the full details of your situation, my default answer would to be ignore it.

I'm with kc on this one, there would be some rare circumstances where I might suggest a quick and short...

There's no magic potion, there's no secret scroll, and there's no mystical spell to make it happen. It simply takes time Emo, but, you have to be 100% truthful with yourself. You need to cut that...

CrazyThumper, it's quite apparent that you're not over her completely, this much you have admitted yourself. What were her true intentions with the message she sent? We could have a wonderful debate...

Spongebunny, sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, there's not much you can do here except focus on yourself and move on. Many of us here have been in your shoes and gone down that path...

Things like this are bound to happen. The important thing is that you've taken the first step. You've accepted the fact that its over and you've cut that last thread of hope. You'll have good days...

Unless you legally owe her money (which it doesn't sound like that's the case), I would avoid her like the plague. You seem to be in pretty good spirits considering and I'd hate to see you risk...

Hi Brittany,

I understand that you are feeling hurt about finding out that your fiancé had slept with a girl during your break. Sometimes we have certain expectations of our loved ones in our...

Unfortunately, you're under the misconception her maintaining a relationship with you is your choice. If she's made the choice to leave, there's nothing you can do to change her mind. Any effort on...

Why does she have to move so close? Honestly, who cares!

Sure, it could be part of some elaborate plan to torture you, make your life miserable, and haunt you but seriously bud, the reality is she...

And you're only 21? I know people in their 50s who don't even have half of the goals you do (or strive to do). You're off to a great start and I can honestly say you were much further along your...

Doesn't happen overnight, believe me, but it will come in time. I've learned to just enjoy the moments and enjoy the process of getting to know people. Have I liked some of the women I've gone on...

It's difficult to worry about if the color of the walls in the living room will match your new couch when the house is falling down all around you. It looks like, at least to her, that your...

The idea of love spans across many cultures. There are countless poems, stories, and other forms of art that seek to describe, explain, and express it. You're certainly not the first to wonder what...

I know. I asked myself that same question over and over before. After my breakup I tried it all - I did the internet dating thing for awhile and I even went on blind dates through friends. I...

Had to spread rep amicon... but yes I'm in total agreement.

So two days after you broke up he started dating another girl? Interesting. Who's idea was this breakup anyway? Your ex sounds like he...

Well this seems to be the root of your problem right here... NEVER make anyone the sole reason for happiness in your life.



What have you been doing for your entire life before she came along?...

Since she's technically 18, there's not much you can do. Sad, very sad indeed.

Through the years I've learned that you ultimately can't force someone to change their mind about things - they have...

I know it may seem difficult to believe, but there will be a day down that road where you'll be over this. Being lost, in denial, in so much pain... it's natural to feel that way for someone who's...

The behavior your wife is exhibiting right in front of you would be a complete dealbreaker for me. To me, her actions reek of a complete lack of respect for you. I can understand if there's a little...

In my past relationships, I've noticed there's been two different types of love I've experienced.

The first type is the initial rush or being in love with someone, or the "honeymoon phase" as many...

Hi sandman, I think that your ex does want to get back together, however if you continue your current behavior I believe this reunion will be short lived. If the people involved in a relationship do...

Glad I could help :)

I agree with amicon here, as long as you've taken the time to think about the situation and not rush into things, which to me at least it appears that you have, I think you'll...

Good things come to those who wait - it applies here too even though we're not talking about ketchup! Its apparent that you're quite fond of this girl and you two, at least from what you've said so...

If you enjoy her company, there's no reason not to continue seeing her in a friend capacity. Just tone down the frequency a bit, leave the relationship possibility out of the picture for now, and...

A4Effort,

You're absolutely right. Things just do sometimes happen. You'll be going along in life and something unexpected and fun comes along. This new girl seems to be a nice distraction but 6-7...

It doesn't take someone with two X chromosomes to see that your ex is immature and possibly mentally unstable. She physically assaulted and abused you - that's all I need to know! I can find a...

I've been in a similar situation.

I ended my relationship of 7 years with a woman who has been nothing short of amazing. She was kind, generous, loving, and everything I'd want in someone I'd want...

Looks to me like this guy likes stringing you along. It almost seems like he gets a high out of getting attention from you for awhile and after he gets his 'fix' he goes back to ignoring you.

This...

The fact that you are questioning whether you should be in this relationship already speaks volumes in itself.

Did he even discuss the decision to sell the property with you? He appears to be...

It definitely sounds like she wants you back in her life just for the sake of the kids and I would never recommend doing this. She says she wants you back yet still spends more time with the other...

Lovebird, attack you? No. Disagree with you though, yes I do.

I can see in certain circumstances where not telling would be the way to go but I believe those to be few and far between. Example: if...

That's a very difficult situation especially with having to deal with the inlaws all the time.

I think the first step is to have an open line of communication with just you and your husband - no...

Quite often in a breakup we tend to idolize our partner - proclaiming that he or she was "the one" or how they were "so perfect for me".

Have you stopped for a moment to step back and think about...

Time can often make bad feelings and memories fade away. In general people tend to remember the good times over the bad when reflecting on the past. Why would someone come back? Perhaps for the...

Trap question? Hmmm. I never thought of questions like these as "traps". I was asked this same question by one of my ex's on a pretty consistent basis. Like others have stated here, that question...

inertia, now you're just name calling my friend. ;) Let's just agree to disagree. Implying that I come from a stance of "great ignorance" speaks volume about the frame in which you are coming from...

I understand the dilemma you face and how you may be feeling quite conflicted over this. The one thing you might want to focus on here though is that relationships should add to your already existing...

Hello inertia, I beg to differ with your point. Jealousy = emotional energy spent on worrying about things that "may" happen in the future. Typically, guys who get jealous easily have insecurity...

Hey Gear, DON'T DO EEET! No good can come of this. Let's play "what if" for a minute. Say you get her something and send it to her but she doesn't respond. Now you're going to be fretting over if she...

My question to you is if you really truly feel this way, are you prepared to take the steps necessary to even have a chance at her?

If so, my advice to you is to do the following:

* Make...

You've made the unfortunate mistake of 'getting her' as a goal in your life. Now mind you, I've been there before and I've made the same mistake - so when I come to you in this manner I may seem...

I'll keep this short and simple. If she keeps calling you, keep making yourself unavailable and say that you're busy. Find other stuff to do with other friends.