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Hi all its been a while. I just wanted to drop by and say Happy Holidays to you. Since we last spoke I have been dealing with trying to put the pieces of my life back together and for a time things...

I joined a really good church its called "The Bikers Church" no lie look it up on Myspace.
My wife was the one who initiated it. She came to me to work things out. To be honest I had washed my hands...

Hello my friends it's been a while but I wanted to drop you a line to say that things are better.
I have started a relationship with God, bought a new Harley, and working on my marriage.
I am a...

Hi all just wanted to say things are a lot brighter. Im doing great and as you said time heals all wounds. Im still a bit tender but toughing up nicely.

Hello all just checking in to say hi. Nothing new to report on the Wife Front other than she gets a bit more brazen as this ordeal putts along. I have adapted an I don't care attitude to whatever she...

Life seems a whole lot brighter I seem to find a sort of rebirth when I ride and I can think. I carry all your advice and thoughts with me. I think I am all right, and as you all have said healing...

Got to be true to myself. Very positive message Thanks

That was how my issues started as "friends and just texting" now Im looking down the double barrel end of a divorce. Trust your gut it never lies. Its inappropriate at best.

Im blushing lol

I bought a 1996 Yamaha Virago and yes I will post a close up. Of me or the bike? Lol

Yep its me long hair, sleeveless shirt, sunglasses and all, Im searching for my inner bad boy

Since this whole ordeal began I have learned to ride a motorcyle and bought myself a nice bike as you can see somewhat in my just added picture. I think I may just go on a poker run this weekend

We have agreed that she can see the kids as often as she wants but they reside with me and agreed on property division. My lawyer has advised against a do it yourself approach but due to financial...

My problem has been that I had an undying love and no matter what she did I could look past it because I thought she would realize what she was giving up. Then some very smart people told me that I...

I know it is to soon right now but I have a friend that seems to have taken an interest in me all of a sudden. Would it be inappropriate to talk to her about this situation and have a human shoulder...

My friends I have not ignored you and I have sought legal council. My situation is a weird one I agree but trust me your advice has been the topic of many of mine and her conversations and I have...

No Jake she has nothing on me. After all of the horrid stuff that has been done and all the pain has been dealt, I guess in a nutshell I don't want to let her go I know it needs to be done but I just...

I know she isn't working so a lawyer for her isn't possible except maybe legal aide. I have been playing it cool and trying to help her with incidentals to try and keep the peace but I can't finance...

I have a son 13 and a daughter 6 and step 28 but she is married with 3 kids of her own. I am well equipped to take care of my children and consider the opportunity a honor. Nothing means more to me...

Yeah I tend to agree I just can't seem to find the courage to do what needs to be done, what the hell is my problem. I feel like a huge part of my life is dead if I do this. She said we could file...

Here is the latest example of having your cake and eating it too. She wants a divorce now but she wants to stay at our house she wants to keep my name and she wants to be a couple but she's tired of...

Well you would have too be in this situation to really understand. She asked me if she could see him one night a week and us stay married and that was the last straw. I told her that I was not...

Here is my reason for enduring this and you may think its not a good one but I tend to overthink stuff. If I divorce her she stands to acquire a substantial amount of cash which in turn will enable...

I know I deserve better. Its just hard to do what you know in your heart is right.

There are reasons but the more I think about them the less they become good. I guess I am under the delusion that it will fix itself and we will go back to a happy life.

I have known about the relationship and she has admitted she is in love with him. I haven't tried to remove her that is what Im saying I don't have a clue how to pull the trigger.

This saga continues she is still living at home but bouncing between home and his place. I finally got her to tell me it was over but then next evening she was home and said she doesn't want to split...

I am now taking medication to curb my depression the situation here is not going well. There are all indications that she is needing money and when I refuse to talk about it she gets angry. I can't...

Fawn chin up It can't rain all the time I guess

Graphic description but some sound advice

I brought her some items that she left behind and saw her. It has been a week and now and I had a heavy heart seeing her. She looked fantastic and seemed happy to see me I can't explain the joy and...

Healing, how do you begin to recover from this. What do you need to do to make this deep agonizing pain stop. I thought earlier when I began these posts that I was semi strong enough to weather this,...

For some reason today has been especially hard to deal with. I guess it is reality setting in that it is truly over. I called her today to discuss the plans with my daughters school and I heard "The...

Im not sure what a legal separation is. I think this may be a viable option at this point.
I have heard this mentioned several times. I hate to sound ignorant but my lawyer only discussed divorce

There is more to this than I am saying. Trust me I am keeping this in play for very good reasons. My wife is possession and money driven and without going into too much detail she would have the...

Truly wise words. My friends this is the best therapy in the world.
Oh BTW Im a bastard now for cancelling the debit card and her order "I dont care what happens to her and Im a liar when I say I...

I have a son as well. But your right I do realize that Ive been a fool for thinking that this situation would ever swing my way. Its just hard to think 14 years is over but slowly the facts are...

My love take it from me I know what Im talking about. I have been in denial for so long and my situation is so similar I think its over unless he is as committed as you to salvaging the union. See my...

Hello all Im on vacation to coincide with my kids spring break. Here is the latest. She was home for Easter but I went to "his" house and she was there (after telling me she was at work) We had a...

You just stated what the Counselor said. OMG were you there lol. Oh by the way she didn't show

I need to think of this as a new beginning and not the end. Maybe things will be brighter sooner rather than later. Lets hope so. BTW congrats on 8 years DoulaLC

I feel bad so to clear the record Thanks to all who have posted here your advice has helped more than you know.
I wish I knew you in real life I would take you all out for a beer or beverage of your...

I forgot Justwant as well God bless you all

You my friend and Jake have been a God send and if any good has come from it it is the fact that caring people do exist.

OK here is the latest . We had agreed that when we got home from work that we would talk about this in great detail. As always I have to initiate the conversation and literally drag the info out of...

Oh yeah the first session was before I knew for sure she was cheating and it was all about how I never trusted here and how I acted like her father IMAGINE THAT. You aren't paranoid if they are out...

I promise I will keep you all posted on what happens here. At 130.00 bucks a session I am getting short changed lol

I forgot to mention that we did go to counseling but the affair never came up because I promised her that I wouldn't throw her under the bus so to speak. We have a session tomorrow but I doubt that...

My friends where have you been all of my life lol This is some of the most sound advice I have gotten yet. You can't imagine how much better I feel just discussing this with mature intelligent people...

I have experienced all the emotions that this one person can handle. There are so many things that I want to say and do that my mine literally races when we are apart but when we are together I clam...