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But you keep letting yourself get "used". This has turned into a huge back and forth between multiple people here telling you what you need to do, you not doing it, then coming back and complaining...

This also naturally happens when you break NC and go back to being "friendly" with the ex, you undo any progression you made and by the time you go back to NC, its like starting over again.

Seriously! I had to spread the rep.

jbots10, it's time to use yourself control and just say no.

I think this is the best outcome that everyone was looking for.

I'm really glad about your post, its clear and really covers the issues at hand. This is the exact type of insight you needed to...

If its impossible to argue with him now, when things are supposed to be good and easy, how do you think he will be in the future?

To give you the second degree about going out, after you already...

This is just lip service. So he's basically making every decision for you, without even asking if you were interested? What next, telling you what type of clothes to wear or what foods you should...

What does "had been with her" imply?

Only for two months? Hardly time to get to know someone and develop a healthy relationship to get married.

Why do you care what he is doing with this other woman? If he is with her after only 2...

Yea seriously, no wonder where she gets it from.

Remember, she dumped you so she could be "free" and she has not come back and said she fully wants to commit to you. She might never, she just...

Wow that's great. I'm proud you were able to get a clear answer that he was dishonest to you and your relationship. Then you chose a path for your freedom from that treatment.

Great :)

You go no contact to move on and heal from the breakup, not as a tool to get her back.

How long were you two in a relationship for?

You were only broken up for 4 weeks, and she already "jumped...

I would bring up the discussion you had before moving in together and ask him what changed?

You have to look at the answer you already have "he has never really gives a straight answer".

Who know's why he doesn't want to commit after 5 years together, but since you tried talking about it...

What would be a good way to make such a delivery and get a good response?

Whatever you do, do not cancel that appointment.

I have a feeling that this is a form of manipulation and trying to get you to feel guilty for something you didn't do.

It's ridiculous that he...

You should tell him straight out, "You asked me to be involved and make decisions about the wedding together, don't tell me a question is stupid when you asked to be kept in the loop".

It's probably just a game he is playing.

Why did he break up with you in the first place?

Why are you so eager to let him get back with you?

You are right DeeDeeC, you and him are different people.

He just isn't the type of person to understand that closure and might not even be capable of giving it to you.

One more reason to...

See this is where your going wrong. It sounds like she's looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, why are you interpreting it so negatively. She's talking about the joy of getting to know someone,...

Would it be possible for him to seek the help of a professional in gaining better control over his questioning behavior?

You broke up with him, why would he want to talk to you anymore?

Wow man, there are toooooo many red flags with this chick.

It's simple, your looking for a monogamous relationship, she isn't, even if she says differently. Her actions are doing the real...

It sounds like he is playing a game to keep you strung along in this relationship that is not getting anywhere.

The end goal for you seems to be marriage, for him its something different.

You...

"According to his phone records, he calls people all day long at work."

It very well could be work related phone calls, which he would be allowed to do at work, but personal phone calls are viewed...

So basically he played games with you for a year, then decided he needed your money and came back for money.

Do you really even need to ask? It sounds like you already know.

Kick this deadbeat...

It sounds like she gave a pretty straight forward no-nonsense answer. Be thankful for that, a lot of people here don't.

Your best bet is to simply keep living your life for the next month and see...

My suggestions:

a) Open command prompt (as an administrator), in cmd type:
Regsvr32 /s wow64.dll

b) If that doesn't work, try using: SFC /SCANNOW

c) If that doesn't work, I believe Sony's...

Yea that would drive anyone crazy!

It's completely ridiculous that she is telling you how much she loves/misses you but refuses to talk to you. Quite a mind-game/ego-boost she's doing!

Your...

"He is almost always in a bad mood saying he hates his life and wants to die. He has told me before when we were broken up that if I didn't take him back he was going to kill himself."

I had an ex...

Your best bet would be to consult your lawyer.

Do you have evidence of paying her and her attorney, be it old bank statements, canceled checks, etc?

Edit: I Just realized this post is from a...

Wow I would be angry too.

So she would rather believe an ex-girlfriend of yours whom she doesn't even know and has no idea about her character (or how reliable she is), instead of listening and...

But that's exactly what your doing to him!

Telling him, hey you can end the relationship if you want definitely will add stress to the situation and make him second guess your motives behind...

So for the mom, it sounds like you just have to take her remarks in stride. Look into finding books at your library on how to deal with people like that, the key is understanding and accepting them...

What makes you doubt her other than the Facebook inbox being empty?

Maybe she just doesn't get any messages on there, or just routinely deletes them, not necessarily because she's hiding something.

Why are you starting a new thread? Your existing thread already has a response.

I think this is just B.S. she is spewing to make herself feel justified for cheating and to mis-place blame on cross30.

If he loves you, why did he dump you?

Sounds like she has deep-rooted issues that have nothing to do with you.

Sounds like he might be a little over the top/needy.

If you really like this guy, you can tell him nicely that you feel overwhelmed by him when you don't text for a while.

To be honest though,...

What are you looking to get out of this situation?

What annoys you about him?

2 weeks is awfully quick to start getting annoyed by your boyfriend.

Yes, 8 year long history as friends.
Only 6 months of a relationship.
Only 3 weeks of being "needy."

I would hardly call what she did support, 3 weeks in and she was ready to jump ship?

I went through a similar situation as you. Except I was 10 years younger.

"Over the next three weeks I became emotionally needy". That's the point of a relationship/friendship, is for those...

Go with your gut, I'd venture you might be a rebound. It seems like she is just shifting her attention to you.

Was she still giving you attention when she was dating this other guy?

I think you should stick with your decision of ending it. Sounds like he is just playing a game with saying he misses you, then denies it.

"after any performance if girls come to meet...and well.. sometimes the quickies are good.. "

What does that mean?

And your complaining about her. LOL. Double-standard much?

Hey asdfa, this is an old thread from January and it looks like the original poster has not returned. Please double check the dates before posting.
Thanks.

P.S. good advice though

How did you win the money?

Why does he want ALL of the money?

I would consider giving some, but keep the rest for yourself in a separate savings (only you have access) account.

Have you tried talking to him about when he keeps insinuating you cheated/are lying to him?

If he doesn't have a basis for it, tell him he needs to shape up and trust you because you have done...