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Thanks So Much Talaniman! :)

Okay, so it has been over a year, and I just wanted to let you all know how I am doing. I am absolutely wonderful. I am going back to school part time, and am maintaining a 3.56 GPA, as well as...

Good luck with everything, it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders, and you will get past this. Always remember to take care of your needs first, before others. This does not make you...

Love is all roses and happy songs when you first meet someone. You are trying to figure out who the other person, and its almost like a dream.
Then as time passes, reality of the world sets in,...

So he is your fiancée and you are ending it with a good bye letter? Don't you think it is fair if you have love for this man to do it face to face? That way the both of you have closure on this.

Well it was 3 years!but you 10 years must be so much harder! How did you cope at the start? I have lost interest in everything I have this knot in my stomach the whole time find it hard to breath and...

I was with my ex for nearly ten years, well he proposed to me after seven years of being together, then he dumped me and moved in with a mutal friend within months. He proposed to her within a year...

Try wasting ten years, cause that is exactly what I did. Consider yourself lucky it was only a year. Now I am sorting through years and years of data, and it is a daily struggle. My ex and I tried...

He is going no contact, and you have to understand he needs to do that to heal. Whether he was the one who initated the break or not, he needs this time to work on himself. Unfortunately, it may...

Maybe she will catch wind of you looking at her Facebook and block you. My ex's new fiancée made my ex block me, and now I can't see anything anymore about him. I blocked his new girl cause she was...

I promise you that once you stop checking up on her, it will become easier. You will have thoughts of her, but slowly over time, your hurt and grief will fade. She as well as you has a right to...

You will probably never totally get over her. Some people live their lives and still love their ex's. Despite all the pain my ex caused me, I still love him. It IS possible to love someone, but...

I understand that. I used to think the same thing, if my ex contacted me I would talk to him or not, but thankfully he never did contact me. I have to see him occasionally, and it really hurt at...

My Ex Fiancée whom I was with for ten years, was in a new relationship within 10 days of our breakup, he moved in with her within a month, and now they are getting married this August, after being...

Did she discuss the relationship with her ex with you? I am sure it must have been very hard for her to have a pregnancy and have the baby all by herself and her emotions must have been all over the...

I know how difficult this must be for you. May I ask how old the two of you are? How long did the relationship last? It is possible that if her son was 7 months old when you started talking to...

I did. I dated and got engaged to a man that I was with for nearly ten years, that EVERYONE tried to warn me about. There were soooo many red flags, but I refused to see them. Now looking back...

She sounds like her feelings have definitely changed, but rather than keep sticking around, I would call her bluff, think of a plan, and get the heck out of there. Stop being her whipping boy.

Okay, thanks Talaniman I will try to change some things, and maybe that will help. I was thinking of joining a gym and maybe change my eating habits a little, by cutting the soda and maybe drinking...

Thanks Amicon for you answer, but I am beginning to think that I do not know how to control the memories fleeting in and out. I seem to dwell, and my coping skills are not as good as others, when I...

Okay, so here I am again, I hope you guys don't mind if I do some venting. As Valentines Day approaches, I am having a lot of feelings of this breakup. Three years ago, he was proposing to me, in a...

Hi Toxicc, I was in a very toxic relationship for nearly ten years with someone who I thought loved me. He broke up with me many times, and I was the one that was faithful, but yet he said he loved...

What the H$$? I'm so sorry, I hope , not to be vengeful, that this type of person gets what they desrve for hurting us.

The only revenge we need is to live our lives in a healthy way, and one day...

Please don't waste anymore time on this manipulative cheater. I was with my ex fiancée for ten years, and he cheated on me every few years. He like yours could be a sweetheart, promising me the...

That is what happened to my ex. He and I were together ten years, he left me and started living with a girl I knew he was cheating on me with. He then cheated on her with me, she found out, and...

He is losing interest, he may be cheating, you may snore, who knows? Either way, you both should sit down and try to talk about it, as communication is the only way to go. Good luck!

Karma always comes around and bites you in the A$$ doesn't it? I think it is so funny, that a cheater always thinks about why it was wrong to cheat, AFTER he has been caught or someone ends up...

Honestly speaking, you are nothing more to him than an out. When the pressures of reality get to him (you know, being a father and a live in boyfriend), he can escape, and he uses you for a place to...

I know, it is not easy. Especially with the holidays here, it makes you really miss your ex. Keep your head up.

Your healing cannot begin until you separate yourself from him and his life. Seeing him is like a slap in the face, and especially to see him happy makes you feel worse, right? If a job change...

I know its hard, I look to where you are now in your very early stage of healing, and I remember the pain being so unbearable, I never want to feel that way again. And guess what Cecilia77, you will...

I spent ten years with a man, engaged to be married, and he left me at a vulnerable time in my life, for someone else and less than a year later they are engaged to be married. I used to wonder if...

I think this is right on! I was the dumpee and would overanalyze and overthink everything to do with the breakup. My dumper ex quickly moved on, and is getting married, but I used to wonder if he...

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Just be thankful that you only wasted two years with someone, I wasted ten. The signs were there for me also, he started pulling back and creating arguments, and then left. It feels sudden and...

I am confused, I thought in the beginning in 2008 you were done with him and you were ready to move on, I had to jump ahead a few pages and I am confused. I was with someone for ten years who lied,...

I too was in a ten year relationship, we are a little older, I was 33 and he was 37. He and I were due to be married this past October, but he ended up dumping me during a recovery from a surgery...

My ex fiancée of ten years ended our relationship with

We are just too different, we could not come together. We became Complacent.

Which really means-I have someone else, and I am bored with...

My ex said this to me six years ago. He started asking questions like, how do you know that I am the one for you? And, what is it about me that you love? Or, Sometimes I think you are too good for...

This lady sounds a lot like my almost mother in law. I just think she behaves this way because she is afraid that her son will lose his love for her which is ridiculous. I had to try to reassure my...

Thanks so much Talaniman:
Its so funny, I know that I am better off without him, and that I deserve somebody better. After I had my breakdown, where I may have alienated a few people I am close to,...

I definitely know how you feel as I am in your position right now. My Ex-Fiancee that I was with for ten years, proposed to a girl that he has been with short of a year on the day he and I were...

Sorry, I am back again. Is it normal during a recovery period to feel good for a few days than BAM, something happens and you can't stop crying? I think I had some sort of an emotional breakdown...

Thanks so much for your kind words Talaniman. Its been really difficult, and its hard to talk to people I am close to that know about his and my past, since they don't really understand where I am...

Yes I know I should do that. I have had contact with his family regarding my feelings, and they all tried to warn me for years he was no good for me, and of course I was thinking with my heart and...

You don't sound harsh at all. Believe me, during this long drawn out recovery time, I realized that too. He did contact me after his girlfriend found out about us, and without asking he basically...

I know that change does occur, and I get that. But why the secrecy and lies before the breakup? And how can someone who says they care so much about me totally just continue to hurt and disrespect...

Thanks for your answer. He and I share a Godson, and unfortunately we do see each other around, although we do not speak. His family and I are very close, he has cut himself from his family since...

Hi All:
I have been a frequent visitor to this site, and have never posted a question. But now I feel the need to try and understand what is going on with my ex-fiancee? He and I were together ten...